I am having some issues with my relationship with my mother and not really sure what it's called, she belittles me in front of my kids and then takes over with them, and when I try to challenge this I get told I'm ungrateful and that I would fail without her, yes sometimes I am not the best person or parent we all have bad days, but I feel like I'm constantly being put down and told I can't parent my kids (and in front of them!) I also get called and text all the time, even when I'm busy and it's making me feel very claustrophobic. I mention something casually in conversation, and she does it. Then tells me that she did x so I should be grateful even though I didn't ask for it. I then feel like if I can't afford x then I would be denying my kids for no real reason. I want to say no though. She says no strings but there are always strings attached. When I'm worried about something managing her stress about it is my biggest issue. I don't want to have a big falling out, I just need her to respect that I am an adult and a parent in my own right, and sometimes need a break from the intensity. This is making me feel very hopeless and depressed, and that then makes me less capable to manage things, and then she goes aha see you do need me. I feel like the only way to cut these strings is to be perfect, but I never will be perfect, that doesn't mean I'm not an adult and deserve to be treated like this. Thank you for reading