I met a man a year ago and we started dating but, I worry that we don’t have chemistry and I feel like this is due to his personality. He’s a really lovely guy, but he’s not assertive enough. I’ve dated someone that was an alpha male and that was the other end of the spectrum and worse. It’s just that he seems to lack get up and go. He’s got no kids, doesn’t cook/clean or food shop (his dad gets this for him), he doesn’t like decorating or keeping things tidy or ironing anything. He has made steps to improve things, for example, he’s had new expensive wooden flooring but not decorated the walls (the living room has wallpaper that’s falling down and it’s dirty). His dad bought him his house about 10 years ago and he’s done very little to improve it. I am not a really tidy person myself and my house can be messy, but I do do try, and I have three sons and work three days a week. I have tried making hints, and he does pick up to a degree, like with his overgrown garden (but he paid someone in to do it in the end). In fairness to him he has crohns, but up until now he hasn’t been unwell with it. He does say he cannot cook meals as he can’t eat much, but he has toast for breakfast, a roll for lunch and also dinner. I am also being investigated for inflammatory bowel disease myself and I do get some of what he saying, but I would think trying to eat a more varied diet would be a good thing. In fairness to him, you wouldn’t meet anyone as kind as him, but I worry I’d be doing everything for him. We are both 45.