struggling with my relationship at the moment - circumstances have changed which means our time together is quite different, and it feels a bit shaky right now. I’ve been really anxious and unsure as to whether we should still be together, and all my fretting has led me to the good old pros and cons list - which hasn’t massively helped. What else should I be considering?
Pros;
Kind - he is great with my kids and elderly mum
Thoughtful - asks how I am every morning, always says goodnight, sees how I’m doing during the day
Non-judgemental - I have anxiety and depression and he never holds it against me
Funny - we share a similar sense of humour
Practical - helps me with house repairs, etc
Happy to try new things
Reliable in some sense - obviously has his own responsibilities and hobbies, etc - but otherwise is there for me
Cons;
Not passionate - lack of sex life & proper intimacy due to current circumstances but doesn’t seem phased
Not particularly excited about future plans (short or long term)
Doesn’t include me in wider family life
Doesn’t feel serious or as if our relationship is progressing
No sense of partnership
Not sure I can trust him - no particular reason but I feel insecure because of the above
Rarely have much of a conversation - he is a quiet person, but he rarely shares much about what’s going on in his life