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Do women get friend zoned?

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NewFriday · 06/02/2023 17:30

I've always thought of it as something that happens to men, but maybe I've fallen for the sitcom stereotype?

I have a friend. Someone I really know as part of a group. We go out together a lot as a group, usually drinking, dancing, to see a band. He often sits with me, he's quite tactile with me, we dance a lot. Whenever someone "notices" , which they do a lot, he'll say something like "were just friends, I'd hate to spoil our friendship".

He's probably right, it would be stupid, but does he mean it or is he persuading himself or just not interested in anything else?

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barbrahunter · 06/02/2023 17:32

You write a lot about what he does and says but what would you like from this man, OP?

MakeItADouble2 · 06/02/2023 17:34

How old are you both?
He is definitely giving mixed signals. Very immature. I would friend zone him as cannot stand guys who can't be emotionally mature, like this ' friend ' of yours

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NewFriday · 06/02/2023 17:35

barbrahunter · 06/02/2023 17:32

You write a lot about what he does and says but what would you like from this man, OP?

TBH I'm probably in exactly the same place as him. He's a good, decent man, attractive and good company, but the little friendship group is a big part of my life and it would be awful if that all fell apart because we did something stupid.

OTOH, you have to take a risk now and again...

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NewFriday · 06/02/2023 17:36

MakeItADouble2 · 06/02/2023 17:34

How old are you both?
He is definitely giving mixed signals. Very immature. I would friend zone him as cannot stand guys who can't be emotionally mature, like this ' friend ' of yours

We're both very old Grin Mid 50s. Both outwardly happily single and enjoying life.

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Tratjymp · 06/02/2023 17:37

I think most men want to screw their women friends.

barbrahunter · 06/02/2023 17:43

If I were you, OP, I would jump one way or the other. It's obviously bothering you having him vaguely flirting with you all the time. I would nicely move away from him a bit or I would ask him out on a date, just the two of you. Who cares if it's awkward? It seems that you're finding things a bit awkward anyway.

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NewFriday · 06/02/2023 17:43

Tratjymp · 06/02/2023 17:37

I think most men want to screw their women friends.

Well yes, this is what I thought and he does behave like he'd like to, but shows no sign of making it happen. I'm undecided whether that's a good or a bad thing Grin

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soboredtonight · 06/02/2023 17:45

Yep I've deffo been friend zoned

DoomedForLoneliness · 06/02/2023 17:51

I believe women get more stuck in fuck zone, rather than friend zone.

popyourcollar · 06/02/2023 17:56

It's happened to me.

WeepyWillow · 06/02/2023 19:08

You need to get some time alone with him. Tell him you have something in your house needs mending. Something within his skill set obvs.

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