Pregnant and husband unfaithful

[Lalallals248]

I’m 8 months pregnant and I’ve just found out that my husband has been messaging other women online and getting pictures from them. I haven’t been able to see the chats he’s been having, but I’ve seen the pictures and there were many of them from someone who I thought was a friend of mine. First conflict is whether this is even cheating because it’s only pictures (they both swear, anyway).
the main and terrible thing is that any happiness I had about having this baby has completely gone. I don’t feel like I want it anymore. It’s a boy and all I can imagine is it being another him and I can’t even cope with that. It doesn’t even make sense because I still love my husband even though I’m so hurt, but I want to change my birth plan and feeding plans so I don’t have to be near the baby. When it kicks I don’t want to feel them. What is wrong with me? Why has it affected my feelings for the baby?
I’m not sure what the purpose of this post is tbh. I can’t tell anyone in real life about this because I don’t know what I’m doing and I don’t want people to hate him if we stay together. It’s taken the wind right out of my sails.

He’s at home with me and I am trying to be as normal as possible with him because it wasn’t physical but I keep getting this feeling like I can’t breathe and something is choking me and I don’t know what to do with the anxiety.

Change your birth plan. You don't want this cheater near you at such a vulnerable time.

Do you really believe they didn't sleep together and it was just messages/pictures/videos for a whole year?

Hi @Lalallals248 i'm so sorry you're going through this 😔
When you see your baby the love you will feel is amazing.
Sending you strength to get through this time x

Can he go to a hotel for a couple of nights give you some breathing room, while you stay home with the kids and maybe ask a friend, mum or sister to come and stay over?

Don't apologise, what you're feeling is normal, this is a massive shock, it won't stay like this but you do need support.

Throw him out!!

no wonder you feel on edge. I feel people place too much emphasis on the children. Your partner wasn’t worried about upsetting them or devastating them when he was sending dirty pics was he? And if you think it wasn’t physical then you are being very naive.

get him out the house, tell the kids he’s working away and invitire friends and family around to support you. An unhappy mother will lead to unhappy children and you protection of his image is just odd

you are putting him first not you and your children. Get him out the house now.

I just picked this thread up and although we are a few months forward, what happened? It was and is a truly heartbreaking post. Such a difficult and horrendous situation the OP was put in.

@Icepinkeskimo things are a mess tbh. We stayed together but after baby was born I was more interested in making myself look nice so my husband wouldn't stray again than in anything else. He still can't tell me why he did it and our relationship is basically over. I've been trying to look at how to move out because he won't but everything is expensive. I don't have much support from anyone and it's all a bit rubbish right now. Thank you for taking the time to ask how I've been getting on.

@Lalallals248 this is an old thread but just wanted to say, hope you’re ok and that things working out in your favour.