Breakup with a baby

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Hi, I’m looking for some support and advice. My partner and I have been together for a few years. We have been through some issues - in summary he drinks too much and always gets home very late and can barely talk. He has been promising to change but has been doing the same thing for the past two years or so.

We have a one year old.

A few nights ago he went out. His phone started ringing late night (or more like early morning). When I went to put it down I saw he had saved a girls number and messaged her at 4am. Also caught him telling his friends how that girl was all over him.

In the morning I asked him what happened and he lied several times and said nothing. I kicked him out of the house.

I am 32 years old, have a one year old baby. I am anxious about the future, and how I will be able to handle everything by myself. My family lives abroad.

Any positive stories to share? I know I’ve done the right thing, I just need some reassurance.

You did the right thing, going out and coming in late always leads to trouble, shouldn't be doing it leaving his one year old, you have had years of it, it won't change best you realize that now before you waste another few years of your life, the thing is have you really finished it or are you going to let him back after he is all sorry, that can go of for ages, you have to make a decision and make plans

Firstly, I’m here because I just ended a 6 year relationship to a narcissist and I’ve a 8 month old baby. So I feel for you. It’s so so hard but I know I’ve also made the right decision. Basically I hope you are ok and want you to know you are so strong for taking the first step as am I. We can do this x

You did the right thing! Onwards and upwards

I left a five year relationship with a narcissist, my little girl was less than a month old. It was really tough at first, I won't lie. She is 2.5 now and I'm the happiest I've been in years, I am grateful every day that I made that decision and I don't regret it for a single second. You have 100% done the right thing. OP you will find strength you didn't know you had and you will be fine, better than fine. Living with a waste of space man is like having an extra child, but one that you (probably) don't even like so you get nothing back! It's not worth it.

Wow @peekabooer20 I really really needed this. I’m crying my eyes out on my sofa as I text feeding my baby boy. God I am so grateful for the internet! Thank you so much. I guess some day I will look back and be so glad, but right now I am just terrified of being alone and in some sad twisted ways miss and love him so much :-(

I left my ex when ds was 2. He drank too. I had no family backup either. I had a job and we had somewhere to live.

If I'm honest, life got easier immediately. All the issues and the stress and the uncertainty ended with the relationship. I'd never been able to rely on him, I knew I could rely on myself. It was a relief.

Ds is 14 now. I've never regretted my decision and have been happy for the last 12 years. Ds is happy and secure, head down in physics gcse at the moment.

Don't listen to all the negative press about single mums. You will do a fantastic job. You'll be fine xx