Hi All,
Here’s a little background. Mumma of 3 (10,8&6) my partner has 1 10yo son. He has severe autism. We have been together for 3 years, and life was lush! Blending our children has never been smooth, but my kids dad has a very active relationship with them so didn’t really pose many issues as we have DS alone at ours every other weekend.
Of late my DSS has been struggling (alot) with excessive outbursts, stimming, lashing out and some inappropriate touching (at home and at school) which in recent weeks this had led to several internal exclusions and home exclusions at his specialist provision.
My DP says he is very much struggling with this and his mood has rapidly declined. Over the last 10 days he hasn’t gone to work (he’s self employed) due to stress. We have DSS this weekend and it’s been rough! You do not get a single second throughout the day. My OH has been ridiculously snappy and not at all his lovely, kind and patient self (particularly to his son).
My OH is upstairs with him as they’ve gone to bed (DSS cannot be left alone for even a minute or something is broken/he’s hurt) and my OH has bombarded me with messages. AIBU to be pi**ed off at the fact he’s told me he’s going to rent a room closer to his son, isn’t planning on going to work etc etc. Says his MH is struggling, but I think he’s being exceptionally selfish. We are already down several weeks of money and the cost of living crisis is effecting us as it is!
Im in my final year at Uni, trying to do placement and my dissertation, on top of being a mother, holding down the home and trying my utmost with DSS I feel as though I am drowning.
His son was off this past week due to his exclusion, my OH wallowed in bed the entire week; not once going to visit or offer help. I don’t feel that’s the actions of a concerned father that feels he “has” to be there for his son.
Just want to scream, but also need to get my frustration out before we have a very serious conversation and I say something in the heat of the moment.
Am I an asshole? I feel like one, but don’t all at the same time.