I have been separated from my ex for almost a year now after being together for 13 years. She was contacting me not often over the time we have been apart and recently she admitted she was in a new relationship which hit me hard to be honest.
I told her i did not wish for her to contact me any more and gave her my reasons.
Within a week she had contacted me on Facebook which I never replied to below is the last message she sent on Facebook
"I am going to "block" you on here, so I will no longer have this temptation to check your profile, to know how you are etc..I loved you so much, and you know the story, why I became this horrible woman, I never handled what happened at the beginning of our story, so I was struggling with this crap. There is no excuse anymore, even if I could understand you had changed. But Hey ho, now this is the way it is, and I really do wish the Best, and for you to meet someone nice, and do not forget, you are a really beautiful soul xxxxx"
She did block me but unblocked me within an hour. The next evening she messaged me again on Facebook with some stupid link to a video, I had to ask her why send me this. This then developed into a conversation which then lead to:
"Eve
can I ask you a question ??.... as a man ...
Steve
sure but why do i get the feeling i am not going to like it?
Eve
lol, you are supposed to know me very well, after 13 years, don't you ??
Steve
you would think so
Eve
ok, so, the question would be : what is wrong with Eve ?? even if she is a good girl, what would you change with her, for her to be a perfect woman ?? So if that question is a problem for you, feel free not to answer of course...I just wonder what is a problem with me ?..
Steve
I am going to answer
Eve
well...nobody's perfect, we all know this...but, as a man, what would you answer ?
Steve
Give me a minute or 2
There is no such thing as a perfect woman, No one i hope including me is looking for that woman. All I would say is believe in the man when he says he loves you, sure to god I just wanted you to believe that with me because I was happy with what I had, just be you and happy
I can not believe i am giving you relationship advice?
There was nothing wrong with Eve, just you did not believe enough
in me that is
Eve
who knows ?.. and in the end, I was not really waiting for an advice, I was only asking for that man that knows me so well, what went wrong, and what can I do better, but I understand your last answer...sure, I did not not believe in you, but the problem is not only YOU, it is me, that does not believe in myself..there is a massive job for me to be done, trusting myself, and I can be loved for who I am..I am working on it, this is a very big stuff for me, I did not believe in your love, only because I was/am not believe I can be loved for who I am.
Steve
Your totally wrong i never but loved you for who you are, that is exactly why i was with you for who you are faults and all.
your not the only person working on stuff
Eve
Thank you so much for telling me this, but there is a massive job for me to be done, and I am so sorry that I never got this..my bad, and trust me, I am now working on it, on myself for me to go further
I have understood Steve, that your going through a big job on yourself and I am glad for you to do this job, it was really time for you
Steve
Sometimes all we need is to be hugged, unfortunately my arms are not long enough to reach you.
Eve
😔 don't say this... I am so sorry...
Steve
for what?
Eve
fuck ! for telling me it is far too late, and when we were under the same roof, we could not share it, not communicating this way..but it was difficult, you were not ready for sure, maybe now you would be
Steve
yes i would
Eve
ok...I would love it to be honest...so, maybe we need more time......I do not want to expect something ..unexpectable (is it english ??), but I for a fact, I hope it could be possible....So Bunny, we have to try to act like adults...no one should be hurt in this story.
Without going into what was said after in that conversation the next day she had backtracked and did not want to try something giving excuse after excuse. Of course i never tackled the monkey in the room the new boyfriend, to i was confused was an understatement. Anyway I told her what I said before please do not contact me again EVER. I realized my mistake by answering her on Facebook and then blocked her on Facebook.
2 weeks later I received an email from her, which i have not replied to or do I intend to do so. But I really am at a loss to understand what this email is supposed to tell me and what was it's purpose, to me it seems pointless and i can only think she is trying to punish me or playing some sort of stupid game?. But to what end and will she ever stop contacting me?
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I always try to remember the best, in any way, and this song, for example, that I used to like at the beginning of our relationship was one of the best.
Then came this time, when I realized you were cheating on me, and you were sharing those songs with someone else, in your room, so for years I couldn't bear to hear those songs. .which sounds stupid to me now..but hey ho :-)
Now I only remember when I was happy, and that's who I really am today, this positive person I was back then.
I hope and I want you to be happy. Frankly. Be positive and carry on"