Weight or not to wait?

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Apologies if this sounds self-indulgent in the grand scheme of things, just looking for some advice.

I’m late 30’s and mid-divorce having been in a sad loveless/ sexless marriage for the last 4 years.

I don’t want to give up on meeting someone but conscious my weight might be a problem in meeting someone. Have lost weight due to the stress of it all, so down to a festively plump size 18. Just in two minds about whether I wait to lose more before trying dating (presumably try OLD) and wonder if anyone had any experience of being in this position. I guess it’s a confidence thing but wondering about different experiences when you’re new to the scene/fish out of water. TIA x

I think that unless you want a bloke who'll go off you if you got out of shape, you need to find a bloke who will like you at whatever shape/size you are.

Thank you for your reply. I made a poor choice and will have to re-evaluate things. X

If I were you OP I'd spend the next 6 months, (corny as it sounds, apologies!) having a relationship with yourself. Your weight might be your 'presenting problem' but underneath is a range of insecurity and uncertainty that's only natural after the relationship you've endured.
So all the effort and time you invested in your former relationship, turn that inwards. Focus on a whole package of caring for yourself, emotionally and physically. So the best most nutritious food, excercise you enjoy and is good for your body, learn all over the things that give you joy and indulge in them without guilt. See women friends and have fun, connect with other women emotionally.
Take time to ajust to your freedom, savour it and decide what you want your life to look like before looking to compromise it all over again in a new relationship.
You have loads of time ahead of you. Don't rush through this transition period, it could be a very special time from which you'll emerge with the confidence to go into dating less worried about whether you're good enough, and more concerned whether they are.