Still need fun

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So, DP now seems content to be sat at home of an evening, either reading, mobile devices or TV. He will go out to pub, meal etc, if I suggest it, but obviously he'd rather not. He will suggest going for a drink on a Fri, early-doors, so in pub for 5pm home by 7pm. Will use getting back to see to dog as a reason. Few of ghe local pubs have entertainment on, but doesn't start till 9pm, so we wouldn't go out till 8pm, by which time it's obvious he doesn't want to go, by body language.
He will go because as he says, "he'll get it in the neck otherwise", I must admit sometimes he will.

I still want to go out, recently moved, so no new friends to go out with at moment.

It's hard as you get older to make new friends. No nearby clubs to join...

Sorry just needed to share..

Was he always a "bore"?

You go out by yourself then, and make some friends. I can't bear sitting watching TV all night, so boring.

Have you tried having a serious chat with him ?

Yes in theory...but most women aren't comfortable going to the pub on their own to make friends. Come on.

@pictoosh why wouldn't they be?! Women are allowed in pubs without men. Other women go to pubs... pubs are where you meet people....

The fact it's completely acceptable and OK for a woman to go alone to a pub to meet people doesn't mean everyone would want to or feel comfortable doing so. I certainly wouldn't.

Doing a college course or finding a yoga or meditation class or reading group might be options op?

OP, if you want to go to the pub to watch a band, then I would say just go for it.

I did about 6 years ago. In fact, I posted on here about it under a different name at the time. I was in a similar position as you but not for the same reasons and the general consensus was just go.

So I did.

I've made some great friends and met some lovely people. Some are just 'pub buddies' I can chat with a couple of times a month but some are real friends. I now play in a band with people i know from the pub. Ive been invited to weddings, been to funerals, celebrated big birthdays with people I've met in the pub. Sometimes I got hit on by men (sometimes still do) but they're very easily deflected and once you've got a few people you can chat to, it gets easier.

And if you're going to see a band, then most people are going for the music and you see the same faces time and again. Most people were really friendly and I was never regarded as odd because I was in a pub on my own - not by women anyway. And there are other women who go on their own too. I've made more friends (and met more idiots tbf) in the pub than anywhere else.

The worst part is hearing Dakota a million times 😩.

Yoga is fine (I do that too but have never made a single friend from it) as are reading groups but if it's fun you actually want, well, I'd try it, at least once, if I were you