Was I Wrong to Think This?

[tomcruiseship]

I'm probably getting jaded with dating sites.

Wanted opinions on whether I've been wrong to think someone I was chatting to might want something casual even though they said they didn't. This came up on text messages:

Asked me what side of the bed I sleep on

Made a joke about taking me into the shower with him

Asked if he could come to mine to share some food (this was done in a joking way I think)

I didn't respond to a comment about hugs on the first date. I know a lot of people do this but it's not something I am comfortable with until I get to know someone. I hug friends and wouldn't have any problem with this with someone I got to know or liked.

Would you jump to the same conclusion or is this just the kind of flirting that happens a lot before a date?

I think you're reading too much into it all. Sounds like normal flirting to me, so in your position I'd give it a go and find out what he wants.

He sounds utterly cringeworthy.

I wouldn't let it near me.

If you don't like what it says disengage with it....in what possible way does it matter if it's normal.

Thick and without finesse. What dilemma.

I'm not entirely sure what you're asking?

These are red flags to me that someone might just want something casual but didn't know if people just flirt like this.

I'm a bit out of touch with online dating. I went on a date a while ago and the pre date messages were just how are you doing sort of thing.

I think you are right.

He sounds boring at best, stingy user who just want sex at worst.

I would have blocked him based on any of those comments alone. Nevermind all of them.

Sounds normal to me

He wants casual, reading between the lines

He sounds tedious

Can't say there is any massive red flags there.

I don’t think I would entertain someone who indicated he was all for having his NatKing before we’d even met.

Fine if that is a mutual thing.

Self hermetically sealing foof and a wave cheerio if not.

He most definitely only wants casual sex.

Whaddaya mean is this what flirting’s like nowadays? It’s always been like that.

Just..in real life, he’d be saying that stuff and eyeing you up like a piece of meat, alongside telling you he’s looking for his Forever Woman.

The only difference is, you can’t read his body language on a text message, so it's making you wonder..

I'd say he's keen for a shag. I'd lose interest in anyone who was sexuallly suggestive before even met them. It should be a hard line if you don't want casual sex.

It's being sexually suggestive before even meeting which is off putting. He is saying he doesn't care of there is a physical attraction when you meet, he'll shag you anyway.

You haven't even met him yet. Of course if you're just after a shag carry on. I don't think so somehow. The least you can hope for is respect and he's a big fail IMHO.

Exactly.

What a pig.