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Does DV marker go off GP medical records?

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Sillybillylily · 30/01/2023 22:52

Just that really. I have a friend who is in bits after going to gp for antidepressants but now has a DV marker on her records as GP thinks she is being emotionally abused by husband. I have known them both for decades and believe that husband is just a truly lovely man. She is devastated as she genuinely loves her husband and wants to work on her relationship. Husband as far as I am aware also wants to work on the relationship and attend counselling together.

She has been contacted by HV and Social services to make sure kids are ok. According to her it was just a lover’s quarrel and not emotional abuse; knowing the husband, I don’t suspect abuse either.

However, she is more concerned about the DV marker on her and her kid’s medical records. Anyone know what happens usually?

Thank you in advance lovely ladies x

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Reugny · 31/01/2023 09:04

Sillybillylily · 31/01/2023 07:59

Thank you all. I think I have a bigger picture now of what abuse looks like now. I will try to console my friend and encourage her to be as open and honest with the authorities as possible.

Her kids are thriving and have no hint of any tension in the family. I only know as they friends with my children and often come over to play. Ideally the HV and SS will probably just assess her and shut her case down when they find no concerns. If that’s the case then they won’t flag her as DV victim in her medical records perhaps.

Thanks again to all who replied x

Her kids and her are separate people.

So while SS and HV may see one or all the individual kids are currently ok, however they have absolutely nothing to do with your friend's health records.

Oh and GPs are often the ones who realise a patient has social problems including suffering abuse in different settings. Some people turn up with repeated minor health problems that are linked to stress. They have a duty to record what they see, talk to the patient and refer elsewhere if possible.

fantasmasgoria1 · 31/01/2023 09:11

People outside of my first marriage thought my exh was a wonderful man. In reality he abused me in every single way possible. He controlled me to the point that I had no idea when my opinions were any more I just shared his. Also a woman across the road from mil had a husband who recently passed away. Mil thought he was a lovely man and so did most people. The reality was different. You can't always assume that the people you think are really lovely when in reality they may not be.

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