I think I want to call off a long term relationship

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I met my partner 7 years ago approx. We are 4 and half years engaged. He wanted to marry quickly (within a year of the engagement). I was apprehensive due to the costs of a wedding and where was the money going to come from in a year. He was hoping to get loads of cash in cards and pay for a wedding from cash gifts. My understanding is that. It doesn't really work like that. The majority of services for a wedding - hotel, band, other stuff have to be paid about 80% in advance before the big day. I slowed the engagement down.

Since then the relationship has went downhill.

• I am in a sexless relationship. It might happen one or two times in a year at max. The sexless is from his side. He can't really maintain an erection for intercourse and perfers to masturbate and he thinks I like mutual masturbation. I don't have a sex life. Its has always been a type of mutual masturbation thing from him. This does nothing for me. He doesn't even finger me.

The doesn't like to brush his teeth at night time. He makes an attempt in the morning time but that's it. He doesn't floss. I don't like this.

We work opposite schedules since the pandemic. We don't even share a day off. Not even once in a month.

To be honest I now love the peace and my time when he is in work.

He does something else and I could nearly kill him at this stage. Every time my phone is alone he picks it up in the hope of snooping on the phone. I am not cheating on him and I have nothing to hide but he is trying to invade my privacy and I really don't like that.

He goes for breakfast about 3 or 4 mornings a week for a fry. The man is a heart attack waiting to happen.

When we met we had so much in common and we usually get on very well together outside of all of these factors but I am not happy.

I never had to call of a long term relationship before. I do find myself withdrawing away from this relationship more and lieing to him more and more like saying I am doing overnight in work to avoid sleeping with him. I am claiming to have more sickness like migraine and other sickness to avoid so much with him.

I never had to call of a long term relationship before. I do I go about it. He was working all weekend and I was alone all weekend or with my family and I loved my time this weekend when I was free.

The only puzzle here OP is why you're still there.

So he changed the second you had a ring on your finger? Niiiiice.

What a loser.

I swear to god. The engagement happened a few years ago. It happened in an August. By January I was beginning to notice whatever we were having in sexual activity was becoming less and less. It went to about 2 or 3 times a year. Then the pandemic came and we moved in together and it became less and less while he was also becoming lazy with the oral hygiene. Since 2020, sexual activity might be once or twice a year and its jow only a mutual masturbation thing and its horrible. Its almost as if he can't even stand having sex with me but he doesn't want to tell me. I don't know. Now, I can't even bear to sleep with him anymore.

The man is a scumbag for what he's done. If he changed his mind about the relationship why didn't he just talk to me. It seemed as if he was only pretending to like me to get a ring on my finger and then everything changed. Either that or he's gay and he was only using me to pretend to his family otherwise. I don't know. There's something not right. He does still seem to be interested in his words and also action towards me but as for the sexual department, there's nothing there. The whole entire relationship causes me migraines at this stage. I am heartbroken too at the same time because he is a good person except for the times he's being nost trying to hack into my phone.