Ex partner introducing son to new partner so soon

[Kay1908]

Hey!

So my ex contacted me in November to say he was seeing a woman and isn’t introducing her to our child because it’s too soon but it’s also a very serious relationship whereby they were together a few weeks !

He has now introduced our child to the woman without my knowledge and has kept it a secret. I haven’t met this woman yet either, am I wrong for being so angry and upset about this???

Your feelings are valid but remember that he is an equal parent and if he has decided that the time is right then that is his choice. There is obligation for you to be told first or for him to seek your permission. The decisions that you make on your time are yours alone so it's the same for him.

There isn't anything you can do about this - unfortunately. He can introduce anyone to your child , any time he likes. Hopefully the new person has been introduced as Dad's friend.

The best thing you can do is to make sure that your child doesn't know how upset you are.

To be honest he can do what he likes and there is absolutely no obligation at all for you to meet her. It isn’t ideal from a too soon perspective but it’s not worth getting too angry about. Is there some jealousy on your part?

He can do what he likes but he cannot compel the child to keep secrets from the other parent that's deemed abusive by children's services (been there) it won't meet threshold for intervention but it will be frowned upon and they might look a little closer in the future

There's nothing you can do. Maybe it's too soon but you'll just have to ride it out. Would you expect the same if you were to get a new partner?

You’re not wrong to feel angry and upset but ultimately there’s nothing you can do about it.

He has been daft. A woman would be crucified for introducing her child to a new partner so soon! So in this respect, YANBU.
I don't think you need to meet her though. You'll just have to trust his judgement on that.

This is a reflection on him and his selfishness. It's not on you, but I do understand why you'd be annoyed, he's confusing your dc. But in reality there's bugger all you can do.

My exdh does this, starts seeing women's, and within weeks he's introduced them to our dd. My dd whitenesses them in the same bed, kissing etc, then they go and onto the next one. We've been divorced for 8 years and I'd say his average relationship lasts 6 months and he rarely has a gap inbetween, his current gf, he moved into his house, with her dc 4 months into the relationship. Our dd is now 15 and she just rolls her eyes at him.

All you can do op is show her how relationships should work through your actions/

You are wrong to feel upset, he has been extremely irresponsible and it reflects poorly on him but unfortunately you can’t do anything about it. All you can do is focus on providing your DC with a safe and stable home life and help them through any mixed feelings they may get due to this introduction.