Found out BF took viagra on ‘lads night out’

[Anno88]

Iv been keeping count on these ever since I came across them in his was bag a couple of years ago. Mostly out of curiosity, but also keeping an eye out. Hes been totally unaware of this.
He claims he has low libido, and I have tried to be very patient and understanding.

…. Then yesterday morning I noted how many were in the pack before I left the house. They are stashed in a wash bag he doesn’t use for traveling.
He was off for a night out to watch the boxing with his mates.
Then this afternoon I get get back home, go to the bathroom to see if any are missing.
one strip that had 1 pill left in it had gone.
I went to the car to check the wash bag he travels with, and it’s in there, but he hasn’t taken the pill.
I confronted him. At first he tries to tell me he doesn’t know how they got there.
Then says he put them in there, but doesn’t know why or what he was thinking. Then it kind of came out they were for just incase. But would/could have never had gone through with anything!
swears he’s never cheated. I did trust him. Not 100% but enough to not worry if he’s out with his mates watching boxing!
iv gone through his phone, found nothing. Gave me all the BS, etc etc.

atm I have no emotion. I don’t know if that’s because I don’t have solid evidence that he’s cheated, or I’m in shock.

He's Defos cheated

If youre counting secret pills for YEARS rather than having an adult conversation I’d say your relationship is dead in the water regardless

He was planning on cheating

Likely hes using them with sex workers.

My STXH had viagra in his gym bag I challenged him about it he says he thought he had ED queue me feeling sorry for him….. fast forward a good 6 months found out he’s been having affairs with younger girls.

Sorry OP I trusted him too, been married a long time but no the full horror story came out in Oct divorce pending.

Get rid now.

just in case? Just in case he decides to use a prostitute. There’s nothing to say is there . He was prepared to cheat on you, the fact that he didn’t this time doesn’t mean there won’t be a next time.
Also agree with pp , the fact that you are regularly checking ( for a couple of years)on a viagra stash that he doesn’t know you know about, who needs this kind of shit in their life. Id say your marriage has been in deep trouble for a few years now.

I can't understand why you didn't say anything years ago.

Does he have ED? With you?

I wouldn't trust him though. I couldn't.

Wtf? Nope. His story doesn't add up.

Even if he did nothing (unlikely, given that it would have been just as easy ro replace as it was to take it out) he's shown a willingness and enthusiasm to cheat on you. Break up before it becomes a reality.

(Been there, didn't realise that once the decision to cheat has been made it will be followed through on, whether on that occasion or another. Don't waste any more time on him. I wish I had someone to tell me this back in my day.)

Oh that's disgusting. He was obviously planning to go to a prostitute.

My guess is he's doing coke with his friends and yeah either cheating with someone he met out or a sex worker. I'm so sorry OP.

Oh that grim OP. You don't need us to tell you that no faithful man takes viagra out with him just incase unless he had clear intention. It's very unlikely that he is this organised unless he's done it before. You now need to decide what you want to do.

I wouldn't believe a word he says.
Get rid!

You live like this ?

That’s not a relationship

Sorry to be graphic but if he's had these pills for years does that mean he can get hard without using one?

So maybe he took it just in case he couldn't get it up, but didn't need it in the end as had a 'natural' errection. So could have still cheated on you.

The fact he said he took it just incase is more than enough reason to end your relationship tbh. I can't imagine you've got a spare condom in your purse incase you pull when out with the girls.

What a waste! What a cunt!

Your BF isn’t interested in an honest, monogamous relationship.

Iv been keeping count on these ever since I came across them in his was bag a couple of years ago.

Your relationship was over whenever you started doing this.

It’s bizarre you say you trust him when you clearly don’t. Why live like this?

Yep - I'd say this has hit the nail on the head.

That’s no way to live, you obviously don’t trust him.