WTF is wrong with me ?? Feeling sorry for assholes esp ex partner

[stokethefires]

He's a tool. Let me down on many occasions. So I dumped him after a few years. I had enough. I am 48 and have given my very last fuck ..
However... I feel almost sorry for him.
I know I deserve better.
I know he let me down and treated me like shit at times.
I know he is sniffing around looking for another woman... any woman , to fill my place despite protesting his undying love for me 😳
I know my worth. I want better. I've seen how I allowed myself to be treated and have taken Steps to read those red flags in the future. I'm
Doing a bit of self healing work too so why do I almost feel pity for this man who shouldn't be allowed near a woman looking for an equal partner ?

Anyone ?

The same way you feel sorry for the neighbour's dog that's out in the rain, despite having a nice warm kennel he could use? It's a pathetic sight.

You'd like him to be better/happier/more competent, so you are sad for him that he's not.

Doesn't mean you'll be letting him in to shake his wet muddy self over your cream carpets and sofa.
Still, he does look wet and miserable!

Wow what a brilliant response and analogy! Makes total sense.

Er, because you're a nice person OP?! It's that simple.

Look up anxious attachment style and trauma bonding.

Just don't let him and his mucky feet back into your head!

The thing is, you have standards. You expect a minimum level of behaviour/lifestyle.

His don't match yours, so it'll never work!

Because most likely you’re a very decent human being.

…but @picklemewalnuts said it best 😁