Too old

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Just out of a relationship another wasted 18 months where I have been cast aside for someone else. Prior to that was someone else for 3 years, before that a 15 year marriage. I am the grand old age of 45. Anybody find something real after 45 ? I'm feeling so desperately alone all. Doing the basics I have to and then sleeping my self esteem is zero. Is all this pain worth ever trying again

Wish I knew
I'm feeling the same right now

I’m 46, divorced and childless. This is not how I envisioned my life at all. I too was left for another woman, I’ve decided the pain, the compromise and heartbreak that comes with relationships isn’t worth it for me so I’m sticking to FWB. No expectations, no living together.. no meeting friends or families. I’m done with that.
I can do what I want, watch what I want, eat what I want.. it’s all about me and I’m happy.

I haven't started dating again yet but at 39 I feel too old to date but too young to be single

So I'm not sure what the answer is OP I'm afraid. I don't think I can ever fully commit to someone again - I don't know if it's because I'm scared of being hurt again or I just can't be bothered or my priorities have changed (I have children so not looking for someone to have children with so that pressure is off)

I’m 46, been single for 12yrs out of choice after end of relationship with DS & DD’s dad, but recently started seeing a wonderful guy. It’s early days but I can really see this lasting. I really did think I’d be single for the rest of my days and was quite content with that, but always said if something happened then I’d be open to it. He’s an ex colleague. So yes, you’re not written off at 45, not at all

Fill your life with other activities and connections and stuff that gives you meaning and purpose and community. When your cup is more full, you'll have fewer gaps that a relationship can fill.

Why do you feel you need a relationship? Do you have children? Other family? A good supportive network of friends? What do you hope a relationship will bring (at this point in your life)?