H hasnt talk to me for day, how to separate?

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Hello,
basically after a big fight where H told me that he feels like crushing me and other stuff, including that he doesnt want to see me anymore and wants joint custody of our young child, we havent talked.
If we wanted to leave, he would surely do something? Its not the first time he threatens separation and doesnt act on it, so it was possibly just an angry outburst, but who knows whats in his head.

Usually its me who makes peace with him. This time I cant bring myself to do it.

I dont think its healthy for the children to live in a house where 2 adults dont talk (I have a teenage son whos not his and who doesnt have a present father). I dont know where to go from here. I think he might want to be spiteful and Im worried about how its going to be for the kids.

We are paying mortgage on a house and a cottage which is in renovation, so all this will have to be taken care of.

If I move, I cant afford paying rent and the 2 mortgages, what do people do in my case? Sorry if its a silly question, Ive never been in this situation.

Sorry, the title meant to say that H hasnt talked to me for DAYS.

First of all, saying he 'wants to crush you' should be setting every alarm bell off. Do the children hear this too?
Things like finances seem huge to sort out, but they WILL get sorted. If the only thing keeping you there and walking on eggshells is not knowing how to separate then you need to think about that long and hard.
Silent treatment is emotional abuse. Simple as that.

It may be that you have to formally separate, but both stay in the same house until the finances are sorted and divided. I believe you can even claim universal credit as a single parent whilst both living in the same house awaiting the divorce settlement.
I would recommend going to a solicitor first, to get the ball rolling on getting divorced. The financial settlement and child arrangements will follow.

Meanwhile if he gets violent or seriously threatens violence, don't hesitate to call the police, and keep records of dates, times, and (in the worst case scenario) photos of injuries, etc.

Also, start quietly getting copies of all financial documents together, including his bank statements, his pension statements, pay slips, etc. - don't let him know you are doing this.

I'd make an appointment with a solicitor.

As long as you're safe, stay put. Do not move out until the financial and property stuff is legally sorted out.

How long is the renovation supposed to take? Is it in progress? I would look to sell up asap unless your intention will be to take one property each to live in or something.

Its not normal to fantasise about crushing someone, thats a very specific threat.
I think you need to get outside support. Talk to a solicitor, and Women's Aid and your local police DV team.

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