Me and my partner have been together for nine years. over the nine years A lot of things have happened. He has emotionally she cheated and from what I know he has not cheated physically. he swears to me that he hasn’t and yes it has been stupid of me to stay but Im still here. we have a baby together and the baby is just one years old. He keeps arguing with me and I feel like he blames me most of the time for the arguments. today for example, we literally had an argument because of a chess game that he wanted me to play while I was at work. And I didn’t mind playing but he sent me the link to the game and I clicked on it and I was playing with somebody else which I thought I was playing with him. He calls me and started telling me that I wasn’t moving and I wasn’t playing and I told him that I was he. started getting upset and giving me attitude. I told him to please stop giving me attitude and that I was playing and then we noticed that I was actually playing with another person. He started getting upset at me and telling me that I never wanted to play in the first place and that I don’t really wanna play with him and I started telling him that I do want to play with him it’s just that I was playing with the wrong person and he started telling me didn’t you notice the time frame, which he was supposed to put the time for an hour and the game that I was playing was for 10 minutes. I noticed the 10 minutes but since I’m working, I didn’t really pay attention to it I was just playing . So then he was like “do you think I’m stupid and that I don’t know how to fix the settings in the game” and I was telling him no I don’t think you’re stupid. I never said that I’m just telling you that I do want to play with you and he kept giving me attitude and telling me why I’m continuing to argue with him but I was just telling him that I really did want to play with him. I know this is a petty argument, but I feel like a lot of our arguments are like this.
another argument that we had he kept saying that I was the one being indecisive when in reality he was the one asking me questions. For example, the other night we went out and I told him about this new restaurant so we went to go check it out. when we went inside we noticed that it was kind of like a lounge area and we were with the baby. we decided to go someplace else. so when we went back outside we saw there was kids there and he was like oh look there’s a kid there maybe it isn’t that bad so I told him do you wanna go back inside and he started bitching at me because I was saying do you want to go back inside and then he started arguing with me about how indecisive I am and saying that it’s hard to have fun with me and that I’m always indecisive. I just feel like every single time we have an argument he puts the blame on me. And says that I’m combative. I’m just getting tired of all this.