Hello, my marriage is over and has been for the last 2 years when DH had an emotional affair. We've been married for 23 years and since his emotional affair he treats me as though i am nothing. He hardly speaks to me, says no more than 2 or 3 sentences a day and they are just general...'are you eating' or 'have you eaten', ' what time does DD finish work' etc, nothing else unless i ask him questions.
Since his emotional affair, he does not let me talk about it, he lies or tells me he does not remember anything about it, I still dont know if its going on or not.
I know i need to end the marriage because i feel so very sad, unwanted, neglected, worthless etc. I have tried to talk to him about how i feel and what i need to make the marriage work but he does not respond. The other day I asked him to tell me how he feels about me and he couldn't answer and then he kept telling me he wants to sleep and can i stop talking. He spends no time with me, we watch TV in separate rooms and i feel so alone.
I'm 55 and i can't see anything other than myself being able to make a life for myself again.
I'm torn between staying with a man who is still in love with his affair partner (she is half his age and lives in another country), who has no respect for me and makes it obvious he does not care about me, or i divorce him and live a life on my own.
I know you will think of me as a weak person and showing no respect for myself but I feel I am nothing and no-one will ever want me.
The emotional affair broke me as a person, I have been with him for over 30 years, how do i move on at my age?
Is it normal for a husband to behave like this after an emotional affair? When i ask to make an effort to save the marriage he says we should not force things but let them happen naturally - i need more than this.
I cry nearly everyday, even when he knows i am crying silently in bed, he does not ask me if i am OK. Is this normal?