How long until things are made official

[Matilda142]

New to the world of online dating, have been speaking to a guy for over a month now and have had 6 dates. Haven't slept with him but lots of kissing on the last 2.

I'm at the point where I'm ready to be more official or at least delete the dating app. I asked him last date if he was dating other girls and he said no he wasn't speaking to anyone else but I know he still is on the app.

After another good date I've asked him if he can see us deleting the dating apps and being more official and he said 'yes in the future I can see that'. I then explained that I don't have sex until I'm in a relationship and he said 'I can see that's important to you' and the conversation ended.

We've made a plan for another date but I now can't help but feel he's just not that into me? He rarely gives me any compliments and if I say something nice he doesn't reciprocate it 🤔 But as I've been out of the dating world for so long I don't know what's 'normal'...

Yeah this. The guys that I dated who really liked me I didn’t have make decisions of whether to back off to see if they were interested. They showed their interest immediately, I never doubted it. Everything flowed naturally and I never had to overthink anything.

The ones where I questioned things, was in doubt, had to ask others their opinions were not really into me.

To be blunt, he doesn't want a relationship, he's exclusive with you so you'll sleep with him. It shouldn't be that much if big deal if he wanted it enough, he doesn't feel as strongly as you.
Perhaps he's waiting to see if his feelings develop enough until then you're left in limbo.

This ^

He’s getting what he wants, but keeping you dangling. Probably not best suited.It’s not pleasant being with someone who makes you insecure and anxious

Thanks everyone, really helpful. With the boundary, he didn't pressure at all, it was me that changed my mind and I don't regret that.

Was supposed to meet last night but I cancelled and said I was tired. He wants to meet tonight, am deciding what to do. Am thinking I might say it's not going anywhere. But I don't want him then to just get into a relationship because I've kinda forced the issue you know. Hmm

To be fair, I have realised from another thread on here and from googling last night that I've always had anxious attachment to men. So I'm partly the problem which I'm going to work on! But yes, does he suit me based on what I'm like hmm. Just such a pity as I do really like him. I know he's told his mum he's dating me and the other day mentioned the summer holidays as if I would still be around then..