When did he say "I love you"

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My ex husband told me that he loved me after 2 weeks. Our relationship lasted 8 years in total. Before then I don't recall a previous boyfriend saying that he loved me. My boyfriend and I have been dating 6 months, he hasn't said it...it makes me feel insecure. How long should I expect?

It took over a year. I said it 6 months before he did. It made me feel insecure yes, but I FELT that he felt it and was happy to wait until he was ready to say it, because now I know he’ll only say it when he means it. Means much, much more than a guy saying it very early on as a means to an end.

About 10/11m. We met in the Sept, he went travelling June, came back August and said it then on our first holiday together, drunk as skunks 😂

We've been together almost 17y now (but it took him 9y to ask).

How long should I expect

There are no guidelines or rules. Some people say it after a fortnight and have successful, happy relationships. Some people say it after a fortnight and have awful, unhealthy relationships. Others don't say it for years, only say it twice a year, say it several times a day, only one person says it and the other doesn't, both say it but at different frequencies...

There are no 'shoulds', except that you should find someone who makes you happy. If it's making you feel insecure, why are you telling us and not him? If you can't talk to your partner about things that make you feel insecure within your relationship with them, then they're not the right partner for you. Regardless of the 'I love you' status.

All my previous relationships said it pretty quick. Current relationship took 8/9 months and it was almost sneaked into the conversation as a given. Could tell it was a big thing for him that he'd been nervous about saying

I had been insecure about it too. However, once he said it, I knew he meant it and it was even more special. The fact he waited until he really really means it and it's not something he says lightly

I said it first, about 5 months after we started dating. I’d wanted to say it much earlier but held back because I was hoping he’d say it first. It kinda just slipped out because I was feeling so happy. And he said “I love you too, but you knew that already.”

I guess you could say it first, if that’s how you’re feeling. But don’t, if you’re wanting him to say it back.

I think it depends on how serious your relationship is at this point. And do you actually love each other?! Because no point saying it if you don't.

Every relationship I've ever been in we're said we loved each other, but maybe after a few months. With dh, I have no idea, but must have been sometime in the first 6 months or so, but I really have no memory of the first time.

I’ve been in love three times and every time - I’ve said it first. Never thought about this before. I’ve never planned to say it - it just slips out! And always within weeks for me. The current partner is long distance so it took longer, maybe 3 months. He said it back about a month later.

My wife said it after I bought her a cat.

We hadn't said it until then (three months?...

I said it first about 8 months in. He said it a week or so later. But tbh I'd felt he loved me for a while before!

My DP told me after a few weeks (maybe 6). I didn't want to say it back as an automatic reaction but I told him a day or so later. Benn together 3.5 years.

My ex husband also told me early in and I said it back. We were just kids then but I knew I loved him. Our marriage lasted 13 years .

I'd care more about how someone made me feel though than saying 3 words that are easily said.

Have you told him you love him?

About 1 week after meeting, he said he knew the moment he saw me, getting married in 4 weeks time.

Current bf way early, 7wks. He said I’m not expecting you to say it back, but I want you to know how I feel. I’d be insecure after 6 months but that doesn’t mean that’s wrong.

“How long should I expect?”

In 19 days time