Have been with my partner around 10 years have 2 children 6F 5M whenever my Partner goes out for a drink i dont hear from him till the next day he can never have a drink and come home he may go out around 4pm and i dont see him till around 12pm the next day he will ignore his phone and not respond to messages. Always says he has been at a friends drinking.
He does this around every 4 to 6 months sometimes he just goes to work he is self employed and then goes out and i wont know until he doesnt come home.
Ive been putting up with this for years he thinks it is no big deal ive had enough i think he just knows i am stuck and cant move out so he can say sorry promise not to do it again and 6 months later will.
The main reason i havent left is im scared i wont be able to afford it i did a calculation on entitled to and i think what i get would cover the rent on somewhere just worried if i could afford all the bills and furnishing it. I work full time but its still a big expense i currently have no savings and family cant help. Just after if anyone else experiences this and what you think? FYI he is 38