I think he doesn't love me anymore

[Thisisitforme]

Been together 6 years
Have two children
Married
The last 2/3 months he barely speaks to me, has zero interest in me.. hasn't kissed me in months, won't hold my hand or cuddle
When I speak to him he completely ignores me
Looks at me in disgust often
Avoids being around me if possible
I don't know what to do
I'm only 27 he's 32
I had a talk with him and asked if he didn't want to be with me anymore and he said he didn't know
My whole world feels shattered
I don't know what to do
I don't understand
I love him more than anything
I've loved him since I was 21
I'm scared and confused and hurt
I don't know what this means for my marriage for my kids
Why is this happening

He even said if we broke up he wouldn't want to see me so he would move far away and visit the kids every 6 months!

Utter cunt.

It sounds like he’s met someone else. His behaviour is truly unforgivable, though. He’s a total failure.

@Thisisitforme

You do have control, you don't have to wait and see what he decides. You can decide.

I agree with @SunflowerTedSunflowerTed , although it's easy for us to say this when we're not in the middle of it.

Your emotions are high and you've had little sleep, you can absolutely take control of this situation though and decide this is not good enough for you or your children.

He’s not sure if he loves you, he’s thinking of moving far away and only seeing the kids every 6 months? He has said all this to you? Righto…..I know you feel like your world has just been blown up but you really need to be brave here. Summon every single ounce of strength you’ve got and grey rock the horrid fucker. Be cold as ice and tell him to leave, that you are not going to wait around for him to decide what he wants. If he thinks the grass is greener, off he can fuck to frolick in his new meadows. I’m pretty sure he will find it’s NOT actually greener - it will infact be Astro turf that burns his arse, but let him discover that on his time, not yours.
I’m sorry op, but I think he has definitely had his head turned. How far it’s gone, none of us can possibly know, but this is definitely the start of “the script”. Men, in general do not just…..go off to find themselves. They wander off to follow Miss shiny new minge and it almost never ends well for them. DO NOT play the pick me game, currently he is not the person you knew. Make him go today. Good luck

@buildingthefuture is spot on 100% the script!!! Deffo has someone else. My cunt told me he " drifted" 5days the bastard messed with my head bending it left and right, i was a wreck!!! Then i found out anyway!!! The weak cunt couldn't admit it. don't do what I did...don't stay, hes said everything he needs to stay.

Just playing devils advocate say there isn't anyone else.....he has already left you and his lovely children in his head already. He will go, just on his terms, when he's found a backbone, probably months down the line, meanwhile what's left of you?
However it is easier said then done.

Also the astro turf comment🤣🤣🤣

Most (but not all) men who leave or say they don’t think they love you anymore all of a sudden have usually met someone. They just don’t want to say. I wish they’d just be honest, as it’s so bloody unfair. Do not blame yourself, this is on him. I’d also ask him to move out whilst he decides what he wants. Keep your head held high OP

OP, pack his stuff and TELL him to leave. Take control of the situation, don’t let him call the shots 💐

Here’s what you do. You tell him it’s over because of him, you tell him he has a month to go. You pick up your crown hold your head up high and make an amazing life for your kids despite him. They are young OP and won’t even remember him if you do it now.
you are young and you will get passed this xx

He's formed a family with you and now he wants to skip off into some carefree existence. Men like him boil my piss. And you're what? Some convenient 24/7 carer for the kids he helped make. Nah fuck that. This is the time to push your heartbreak to one side and as a pp said summon your inner ice queen. Don't be tempted to cling to him. That's exactly what he's expecting to happen.

Is the house bought or rented?

I don’t think you do have to wait. You could take control and say “ok, go then, if you’re so unhappy”. Start making your own practucal plans for a single life. He’s going to do what he wants anyway, would save all the waiting in dread or might shock him into thinking about what he’s losing. Selfish prick is taking all your joy and making you frightened and unhappy. I bet you’re not enjoying your children as much as you could be either. He’s stealing time from you. Stop him.

No one can truly know if his head has been turned. But nonetheless the atmosphere in your home is being affected and you've done nothing wrong. As much as you love him you have to muster every strength and put your foot down and say enough is enough. You can't wait around for his decision on whether he wants to make it work whilst living in fear of it ending, its unfair to you and your children. His comments are also out of line it gives no reassurance whatsoever it just reconfirms he is willing to abandon you and the children.

Love this x

You dont have to wait! Ask him to leave to give you some space. Make an appointment with a solicitor.

Thank you everyone
We are on holiday right now
Once I get back I'll start sorting my life out

What happened in the end Op? How are things these days?

You always have options, and what you can control is what you decide to do. DO NOT wait for him to decide. Tell him to move out whilst YOU FIGURE things out.

Irrespective of what happens between you, I would be telling him that his decision to see his kids every 6 months in unacceptable and he needs to step up as their father. It is beyond disappointing, and disgusting behaviour. And frankly, a poor excuse. He may be having a crisis of sorts, or be depressed - who knows, it’s not for you to figure out. And he can do it on his own time.

You taking control of the situation might change things in the short and long term, but you will know you had the confidence to make a choice. You sound like a bloody catch! His absolute huge loss.

He may realise after you tell him to move out, that his attraction for you increases. Desperation and lack of self confidence is unattractive. Even if you never want him back, leave with your dignity intact.

Stay strong. What a huge disappointment. You deserve so much better, and your children do too! Sending love