I have a new boss and a few months in, I'm really struggling. Because I've had brilliant bosses so far, I don't know if I've just been mollycoddled up to this point and my new boss is just how 'real' managers are!
For context, I manage a medium sized team and my previous long term boss was lovely. At the start, she spent time with me (and all the team), understanding our roles, the challenges etc and had a good understanding of all we did. I felt I could trust her and that she had my back. We had regular catch ups, she was very supportive when I went through a traumatic personal experience and I basically felt she supported me and fought for me if needed.
She moved on to another post and new boss was recruited. She (new boss) arrived and announced early on she thought we had too much hierarchy (probably true!). But, she turned down opportunities for regular meetings (doesn't like meetings, she says!) and didn't spend any time with team to really understand what the team does. She then started announcing changes which were a bit crazy as it was clear she didn't understand our business model and if her changes went ahead would likely impact sales.
We see her about once a week for a few mins but you get the vibe that she isn't interested and just wants to be away. Most of her communication is on email. She said some stuff to me recently which made me realise she has a very limited view on what our team does. But then she's never spent any time with us, so that makes sense! Our company has always prized itself on its great working culture but I've never felt so unsupported.
I finally asked for a meeting (having not had a meeting with her for over 8 weeks) and when I (gently) raised some issues about communication etc, she got very defensive and turned it back on me. Walked out at end of meeting feeling like I'd been gaslit.
So I'm wondering how much communication you would typically have with your boss? Do you feel supported? Have I just been mollycoddled so far?!
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pizzaoven · 25/01/2023 20:40
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