OH insecure about me having sex toys

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I casually dropped into conversation that I spur-of-the-moment ordered a vibrator because my old one had been dead for years and my partner of 3 years made a weird face and looked taken aback. I really didn't expect him to be bothered because we have a good sex life and he is the open-minded type. And I didn't want it to be a secret either.

I gently prodded and he told me that it's made him feel a little inadequate and insecure. I assured him that wanting to have some quick solo fun sometimes definitely doesn't mean that i'm not happy and satisfied with our sex life. He would never ask me not to use it because he's not controlling like that and he hasn't mentioned it since, but I feel a little bad about it.

On the one hand, it's silly to be jealous of a piece of silicone and his insecurities are not my issue to fix. On the other hand, I care about his feelings and don't want to do something that upsets him and harms the relationship, which has been going great so far.

Thoughts?

Mate, he can’t tell her not to sleep around! If she wanted to sleep around, she can and he gets to walk away. Being faithful isn’t a result of the other person instructing you not to cheat, it happens because it’s a choice you make for yourself.

True, you can't insist someone doesn't cheat if they want to do it anyway. And you can't insist that someone doesn't use a sex toy, they'll do it when you're out. The question was never about OPs DH forbidding it, it was about feeing a certain way or wanting to talk through things.

I think having an attitude where your partner fees they can't even talk to you about things that might bother them is almost as bad as being typically controlling. It breeds resentment and is generally uncomfortable

Nothing wrong with maturation, but if you're horny, why not ask him to help instead of using toys? Or am I missing the point?...

Spectacularly.

Are women not allowed to masturbate on their own?