He doesn't want to visit my country

[andzhella01]

I have a close friend with whom we have been friends at a distance for more than 3 years. We like each other.
He said he wants to meet me, but he wants me to visit another country. That is, he wants to arrange date in another country. Why do you think he doesn't want to visit my country?
I can’t say that he has little money, he earns quite well.

Did you ask him?
Is the other country somewhere in the middle between your homes?
Have you ever met in person?

A preference for neutral ground would be my guess.

No we still haven't met. My country is in the middle between his and this country.

Does he have a criminal record that would bar him entry from your country?
Has he tried to enter your country before illegally i.e under a tourist visa got caught out and now banned for a time?
If you're in Wales and he's in Scotland and wants to meet you in England, for example. That does not sound unreasonable.

Is your country very expensive to visit (hotels, food, visa etc.) compared to the other place? Or are there any very big social and cultural differences (e.g. issues of religion, racism, laws) between his country and yours?

Has he asked you to come to his country?

Meeting in the middle is surely the most sensible thing to do? Also if you are online friends and have never actually met you don’t know this man at all.

Seeing as you haven't met yet, I think it's really dangerous to go to another country to meet him for the first time.

Why don't you ask him rather than expecting us to guess? Maybe he just fancies a holiday in that country, maybe he hates your country. Who knows?

This. I'd like to be in my own country!

Only he can say. There could be loads of dodgy reasons. There could be a specific problem he has with your country.

It could be that he would prefer neutral ground. It could be that he wants to visit the other country and wants to combine the two.

The question is for you is do you think that’s a sensible decision. Personally, I wouldn’t. Since you don’t know him. But then I wouldn’t also see it as fair if he has to foot a travel bill to see you and you spend nothing travelling to see him. long distance is a problem that way, especially if the friendship has started as long distance. So it’s not like you have met and know him that well.

We like each other.

As in more than friends?
If yes, then I’d guess he’s trying to see how little effort he can make and still get laid.

If the country he wants to meet is in the middle of both your countries that makes sense. Better to meet on neutral ground and it’s not as far for him. Is this just a friendship or potentially a romantic connection?

I think this is a cheap/lazy thing. He wants you to put the effort in but isn't willing to do the same.

To me, it doesn't sound like he's serious.

Another possibility is that he’s a scammer and wants you to go to another country so he he can scam you for tickets/ his expenses etc. Whatever you decide, do not financially facilitate this in any way whatsoever.

I really hope that’s not the case but many of these scammers will play a v long game and are playing multiple people simultaneously.

Or that he's worried you're a scammer

FGS woman, just ask.

That said, wanting to visit another country to meet a bloke is utterly bonkers IMHO.

Also maybe he’s just worried you won’t click in person and then if he’s staying in your home town it will be mega awkward, especially if your town isn’t really somewhere tourists would go.

What country are you in? What country is he in? What country is he suggesting?

How did you meet him?

Not this again.

What do you mean by this? Have you heard this story before? Don't you believe OP is genuine?

OP, let's wait here while you ask him. I too am curious to know, it could be any reason at all unless you just want to enjoy a guessing game.

People smuggler?