Trouble with my family over my DS and my cousin :(

[Disenchanted]

DS went througha biting stage about 2 months ago,

he bit my aunts baby who was about 13 months at the time (he was 15 months)

he bit him badly several times, it was awful

DS has now stopped biting he doesnt do it,

but he has an older brother (3) and being sibling brothers they fight,push ect.

Now my aunt has a 12 year old and the 15 month old so has never experienced siblings play fighting.

Now everytime i go round there i feel like shit

Her DS hit my DS yesterday - nobody saw it appart from me as the were having a smoke in the garden

I dont say anything as my DS was fine and its normal IMO.

Now later on my gran was in the kitchen and she has glass doors, the kids had walked behind the couch and my gran starts literally screaming (!!) and banging on the window of the door shouyting 'hes got him, hes got him'

I run round the couch and MY DS has my cousin by the tshirt

THATS IT.

He is holding his tshirth, the 15 month old is fine!

She said he was hitting him though

But i say but he is fine look, he isnt crying, its not like my DS was stabbing him (thats akin to the reaction IMO!)

So I went home.

I was so pissed off, this child is the golden child, you cannot do anything around him.

I feel Im unwelcome.

This is not a 1 off incident BTW, it happens everytime.

They are kids FFS!!

My sister has a 9 month old and I cannot wait till he walks and my aunts toddler starts to hit him! I will stand up and start screaming and make HER feel like an arse

Sorry this is just a total rant

and I expect my spelling to be appauling too

Can I just add that I love them all to death and Its hurting so much because I feel like I cnat go round there when my aunt visits with her son, like Im not welcome because of my 'demon child' (who is actully so so sweet but just acts like an 18 month old!!!)

Oh and when i told my mum she said that she was the same when we were little (IE her 12 year old wasnt to be pushed ect by my 13 year old sister or all hell broke loose then too)

My mum went round and told her she went through it all when she was younger its not happening witht he grandkids too

TBH it just sounds like your gran overreacted and you are maybe a bit oversensitive to people thinking your DS is a "demon child" because of the biting thing.

How did your aunt react? Is she making you feel like an arse?

If your DS bit her DS badly several times and she's still happy for them to play (unsupervised?) together then it doesn't sound like she's being particularly judgmental or precious.