Valentine's Day...do you care?

[SuperGrrrl]

and if you do, what are you doing?

Oh I think it is nice to show a bit of care, not necessary to go out r over the top but it is nice to mark a day that you both make a bit of effort.

Carmenere that recipe is great

yes i do care - when times were good i didnt care

times are perfectly fine and i do care about the thought that my dh gives me at this moment in time

No, don't care at all. Did the card thing the first year with dh (but had only been going out for a few weeks then). Haven't bothered since.

Desperately hoping not to have a baby on that day (due on 10th). What a grim day it would be for a birthday. You'd never be able to go out for a decent meal to celebrate because everywhere has grim Valentine's menus and is full of simpering couples.

My Dnephew will be 4 on 15th Muffin - DSis was v. glad he wasn't born on 14th. Mind you he wasn't due till 14 March!

Friend here is due on 9th. Was hoping to go this week but now her DS1 is sick and DS2 bound to get it so she is crossing her legs!

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i care, and i know DH is caring too, we have done it every year we have been together. i dont know if we will in 20 years though....

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I never "did" Valentine's Day, for the reasons given by Hairtwiddler. Used to try to do a bit for our anniversary as that was our special day, but generally deemed by H to be too difficult/expensive/can't dump the children on someone else for such a selfish reason etc.

This year it is going to be special, though, because my decree nisi is due to be pronounced on the 13th

No, what's the point? Actually, my dh and I are separated f we weren't I'd still be saying what's the point?

mildmanneredjanitor - NEVER

I've had one bunch of flowers from DH in the 7 years we've been together. He's just not good at that sort of thing.

Then again, I knew all this about him when I married him and I love him dearly.

I take your point though. I think I'm going to try to make our wedding anniversary into a special romantic day for us. Partly because I think the whole list of presents for each year made out of a different material is incredibly cool, but partly because you're right, it's important to put time aside to celebrate being a couple.

That said, I'm making this plan fully cognisant of the fact that I will have to remind him every year and probably make the plans myself.

It is meaningless really I am happier with one off treats and gestures out of the blue when I know dp has really thought of me and not been bullied by a barrage of pink attacking him in every bloody shop!

incase DH lurks I CARE! Can't ever remember it being a big day though, may have got a card last year. I rack my brains for week thinking of great ideas for DH, but then when it gets closer and I hear him sigh everytime we pass Valentines cards etc. I kinda give up. I have dropped more hints though this year

I pretend I don't, but I really want overpriced grand prix roses and a big fuck off diamond.

I am shallow

not a huge deal here, do cards for each other (usually make the one I give DH), and sometimes go out for a meal around gthe day, but not ususallt on it. We are going for dinner with friends on Valentines day this year, only night in half term we are all free.
Agree that it is commercail tat and not really romantic, but is good just to have an excuse to spend time together and make the effort, as we don't remember to make the effort 'just because' often enough.

we are going away withoutt he DC for 2 nights this weekend though, just because

I have never given a fig, really,but over the last couple of years (since our son was born 3 yrs ago, actually) DH and I have treated it as an official date that we must spend together and do something nice. We have done completely 'un Valentine's' things like go to a football match or the pub....doesn't have to be hearts and flowers, as long as we get a babysitter and get out together. Also, DH proposed last year on Valentine's (slush emoticon), so it's a bit of an anniversary now. he's surprising me this year, although I did overhear him talking about a curry house in Bethnal Green - how romantic

No. DP and I have decided not to bother at all this year, not even cards. It seems crazy that we all have to be romantic on the 14th just because someone tells us to.
He'll be on a plane to South Africa on the 14th anyway so I won't see him at all.

Carmenere -Will you marry me?

Bigamy is very fashionable now, don't you know.
I'll happily be your bitch if you make me that french toast.

I care too. I would like to say that I don't care because dh and I are always spontaneously romantic but tbh real life kind of gets in the way now we have ds so I think it is nice to have a reason to make a bit more effort - a relationship needs working on after all..

I don't mean the grand gestures or spending a fortune on tat but we will get cards and I always try and get a thoughtful pressie (last year I got him a silver "my last rolo" that sits on his desk in the home office. Its nice to make the effort to sit together and have a nice meal rather than doing all the usual weekday evening stuff - afraid after 11 years we probably do need a prompt to do this kind of thing..

Carmerene that recipe sounds amazing!! Thanks for sharing.

I am very tempted to make it with DS this weekend.

V Day will largely go un-noticed in this household as I'm single

Yes, care quite a lot cos it's my birthday! and dh is the romantic sort.

He's working away this week so we'll go out for a meal at the weekend and he'll send me some flowers etc.

Yes! It's not about romance, it's about the fact that I need a box of chocolates at this time of year to keep me going. He'd be in very serious trouble if he forgot.

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