OMG ! I think I find women attactive suddenly!

[blossomandwonder]

Have NC for this as in other posts, I moaned about my ex husband.

I've spent several years swiping left and right on dating apps and am pretty miffed that there really are zero men my age (51) who look attractive or appealing in anyway.

So.... last night I flicked onto 'women' and I was astounded by how many women I found myself attracted to. This has never happened before !!!

Shall I just go for it??

No. At your age, I would expect you to have felt a really strong emotional and physical attraction to one or two women IF you are either an unaware lesbian or bisexuality women. I am older than you and have had that particular crisis more than 20 years ago. The difficulty was Ì knew I was in love with the woman. We did not pursue a relationship. I was still married and she had a female partner who had a child. Since then I have had attraction to only two women.
So it is not a game. Women are not out there just for you to mess around with their feelings.

@Thistlelass

OP isn't suggesting messing around with people's feelings. She's suggesting dating people she may or not want to pursue a relationship with.

What you're saying is that you felt attracted to a woman, then you felt attracted to another woman, and then you felt attracted to another woman.

Whether it's a game is irrelevant to your individual experience. Women being out there for OP to 'mess with' isn't relevant because she's not suggesting doing that.

Your 'no' is based in what you've been through, and has nothing to do with OP's experience or curiosity.

This. I've had dates with people I got on very well with online, and when we met, I knew we couldn't be more than friends, and there are those who decide that they don't want friendship, just dates. And that's all fine, it's part of dating. I don't think your sexuality makes any difference there. You still need to treat people with respect and take their feelings into consideration as you let them down. Of course you will also come across those who don't, because life is full of gits, but I believe in doing as you would be done by, even if others don't, and sexuality is irrelevant there, just treat others with respect, however you feel.

Try joining Skirt Club.
It's an online community of bi-curious women. That way you can be totally honest while exploring your sexuality.

They organise official events but there are geographical groups who often arrange their own meet ups.

You can also message people privately and meet one on one if the events or nights out feel a bit much. Although, my experience is that everyone is so friendly.

There's also killing kittens as someone else has previously mentioned it I found that a bit much and they allow men to join so it just felt like married couples looking for threesomes and group sex.

Skirt Club is women only and a much better vibe imo.

killing kittens is such a vile name. I'm guessing they're trying to be sexy but cute at the same time 👎

I have several friends who've made the switch and are happier than ever!

Nope. It's in reference to the phrase 'every time you masturbate, god kills a kitten'.

That makes it even worse.

Why?

It a play in a well known saying and making it clear that your sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of...... one version of the phrase specifically refers to women masturbating so it fits.

I'm lesbian & I know this is an old thread but think it deserves a response to add stuff. Many lesbians have has unhappy exprriences around multiple times by women who did not make clear they were bicurious. It is different to w a guy bc there are different dynamics intrinsically between 2 women than a man & a woman, & most older lesbians prefer to date women who already have experience of those. Plus if you get into a relationship but then it changes to you preferring men, the chances of that would be higher for you. Not saying it would happen, but I think lesbians would want to know first. There are cases of women losing the attraction & the lesbian feeling used. Better to be sure of your sexuality first!

Skirt Club much better suggestion. I would suggest if you want to date women after that go for bi women, as they are likely to have more in common & be more comfy w your situation.