Why he doesn't want to follow me back?

[andzhella01]

I recently reconciled with my friend. He unblocked me, but he didn't follow me back. I ask about it. He replied that he is not very active on Instagram. But I see that he likes other girls. What should I do? I don't want us to have a conflict again. Or should I wait? (we still haven't met. Long distance)

Block him and try and grow up a bit.

This is a fair summary.

No, I don’t just mean the drama, I mean the OP’s entire conception of ‘friendship’ as involving following on social media and whining about him not following her back. That’s akin to the large numbers of posts on here which use the word ‘friend’ to mean ‘someone I don’t like very much who has never behaved well to me’.

i don’t rule out genuine friendships being initiated online, but I think it would require exceptional writing skills from all parties and a significant investment of to convey any real sense of someone’s character.

Significant investment of TIME, that should have read.

If I accept a request, I'll nearly always follow them back (because I only accept friends).

If I don't ask to follow them back, it's because I'm not particularly close to them and not interested in their pics.

Try and get some self respect, block him and go outside, try to get some perspective.

You're being very intense about someone you haven't met.

He isn’t into you. I’m sorry - block and move on.

How can you know you like someone you've never met?

A friend you've never met? So an internet random then?
I would hazard a guess that he doesn't view you as part of his 'real' life.
Some people are like that. Get into online conversations, send dick pics, ask for nudes, get an ego boost, but when it comes to any real interaction they back off because it's just fantasy.

You've never even met and there's all this drama. Blocking. Unblocking. Monitoring his social media. Is it actually worth it?

This.

My friend's whole existence is about relationships online with men she's never met. Only seen photographs. But they're all "funny, gorgeous, make me laugh". Never seen move on a screen. She's almost twice as old as the OP.

Constantly analysing what they mean by their comments. Long soliloquies about what they say on social media with no interest whatsoever in the person sitting in front of her attempting a conversation.

Time to join the real world and make some real friends OP.

To add, my friend also obsesses about the men she talks to putting hearts on comments by other women. Then starts a conversation with them about how much it winds her up and upsets her.

Don't be her at 42, OP. In fact don't be her now.

Are you twelve or something?

You sound about 12. Maybe it's time to grow up a bit x

Why would you want to be friends with someone you've never met, has already locked you once and is actively looking at other women?

Him not following you back is a huge sign that he isn't that into you. What you should do now is move on and make new friends.

you should get some self love and self respect and find someone who will like you as much as you like them - find someone who will never make you doubt your value

Is there a rule that says he has to follow you back? Honestly you won't see it right now but this is the sort of thread title you'd expect from a child. It doesn't sound terribly emotionally mature to equate relationships depending upon who follows you or friends you.

I needed a laugh. Thank you OP