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Did anyone ever meet their partner to be at the lowest point in their life?

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WandaWomblesaurus · 24/01/2023 01:10

You know how "they" always go on about how you have to be in a good place to meet someone? Would be interesting to hear from people where the opposite happened - where you were a low point when love changed your sense of hope.

I met my current partner when I was at a low point in my life dealing with a really severe PTSD episode and feeling very very low. He was an ex I briefly saw from my twenties who messaged me out of the blue one day and who then spent months being a supportive friend until blue skies started to appear and we started dating. I was at my lowest physically and mentally when I met him - he saw through that.

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thaegumathteth · 24/01/2023 01:28

Kind of. In retrospect things weren't that bad but for me, as a teenager, I was pretty down.

Had a break up and then a really awful experience with a guy on a night out and plus had recently left home and started a challenging Uni course where I felt a bit like a fish out of water because I went to a state school.

Met dh on a night out I wasn't going to go on but ended up heading out at midnight (cannot even imagine doing that now!!!) and we've been together 22 years.

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scoobydoo1971 · 24/01/2023 02:03

Yes, I was dying and awaiting life-saving surgery. As it turns out, surgeon saved my life but also caused catastrophic life changing injuries as well. I met him during lockdown, albeit virtually as a result of a mutual interest. I wasn't looking for romance with half my arteries hanging out, and never thought we would meet in real life. I never expected him to hang around, especially through the terrible sequence of operations, my diagnosis of permanent disability and then a family bereavement. But he did, and we met up. I already knew we were not going to be a fling, and so did he. It took our time to build a relationship around exceptionally stressful circumstances. To borrow a cliche, he has been my rock.

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dalmation4046 · 24/01/2023 14:23

Yes, I was on tinder (probably shouldn't have been, I don't think I was ready at all) just after leaving a marriage of ten years and moving back to my hometown with two kids, a mouldy rented house and no job! I was so low, had lost so much weight, wasn't looking after myself at all tbf...then we matched and literally the rest is history. I found my best friend that day! Couldn't be without him now.

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WandaWomblesaurus · 24/01/2023 21:19

These posts are all beautiful!

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sosickofthisshit · 24/01/2023 21:35

Yes, I was going through a lomg, horrible, acrimonious divorce when I met my now partner. He supported me through it, and I honestly don't know how I'd have gotten through it without him. He's my rock ❤️

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MaryBerrysCamelToe · 25/01/2023 01:38

I want at my absolute lowest but I was having a pretty shit time.
I was a single mum, just moved 500 miles away through women's aid with my children and we had no possession except what we managed to fit in 3 suitcases and our rucksacks to get the train. I had least everything pretty much except my kids, was going through bankruptcy and was getting divorced.
I felt worthless, like a shit mother and a generally in deserved person.
Then I interviewed for a new job and my now DP interviewed me.
I found myself again through a job I enjoyed, having happier kids and having a better quality of life without the fear of my ex being in our lives.

We became good friends as he was also going through a messy divorce. He then got promoted and moved departments so was no longer my boss and one day when we met up he kissed me and it went from there. We are now happily married, just had twins and are looking towards buying a house.
The kids adore him( except a grumbly teenage who tolerates him 🤣).
I met him at a truly low point and got to know him on the way up x

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Pottylotty85 · 25/01/2023 19:42

I was being messed around by my husband of 16 years, cheating on me (I didn't know at the time) so I put an end to it (although heartbroken) went on a dating app 3 months later, matched with my soul mate and haven't looked back ❤️

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iwishiwereafirefly · 25/01/2023 19:50

A really lovely friend met her now husband when her health was at its absolute worst. She had a membership on a free dating website and had pretty much forgotten about it. She'd just come out of hospital after a horrendous time when she received a random message from chap on the dating site. She got into WhatsApp conversation with him (was fully honest about her health problems and the fact she felt like an absolute mess), they met and it was sparks at first sight. 18 months on they got married and we were all there with them to celebrate and dance the night away!

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Rapunzel22 · 25/01/2023 21:34

I met my now H when I was trying to recover from a terrible narc that I was seeing. I had had a major panic attack and was very very low. I was on line dating before this and my now H messaged me. I met him the next day and the rest is history. He was/is a lovely man and helped me through a terrible time by his sheer decency.

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