Blindsided

[justawatcher]

We had an argument a week ago we sometimes have silly arguments but now he says he doesn't think he wants to continue he's hardly spoke to me so I made the choice and said ok it's over he's then basically said I am crazy. I have left it a few days but heard nothing. I can't say enough how this is not like him. Have been together a year and I can honestly say he treats me great. It's my birthday today and nothing. He says he is fed up of me talking down to him. Everything is going through my head has he found someone else or was I really that bad. Should I message again or leave it. I can't eat or sleep. It has come out of no where. Please help

I'm sorry you are going through this. It's best not to torture yourself by passively waiting & hoping, you'll heal faster when you accept that the relationship is over.

It has come out of no where.
It really hasn't my dear.
You have silly arguments, you had a bigger argument last week, you told him it was over, he agreed, he is ignoring your birthday ...

He has told you how he feels.
Whether he is right or wrong is immaterial, so don't torture yourself going over the ins & outs.

Give yourself a few days to brood & grieve, & use that time to start planning fun & treats for yourself. We've all been there - it hurts, then it gets better, & we start meeting new people again. This guy isn't for you - draw a line under it & move forward into happier times.

@KettrickenSmiled thank you for taking the time to respond to me it means a lot

Happy Birthday 💐

It sounds like he's just had enough of the volatility of the relationship, so when you called it quits he just thought 'fair enough, bye'

In the nicest possible way, use this experience to be different in your next relationship, engage in adult communication rather than silly arguments, and if you value the relationship then don't end it over a silly argument, talk it through and move forward.

He doesn't like the way you talk down to him. Simple as that, it's over , find someone better

Ah. Sorry. It's so hard when things end.
It was you that said it was over though? It probably isn't the right relationship for you anyway. Think about what you actually want before any more communication with him.