Boyfriend wants to go travelling

[HMum19]

I've been in relationship with my partner for 1 year, he's 26, one year younger than me. He's very career orientated and always been focused on work and doing really well in his job.
However, recently, a few of his friends have left the country to go travelling. He's been talking about it a lot, and just seem a bit fed up, and now saying things quite out of character like "I'm not enjoying work" "I might leave" etc, or that once he reaches his next milestones he's going to leave etc, I've asked him if he's thinking about going travelling and he's just always a bit wishy washy with his answers, and says a different answer each time; sometimes it's yeah I'd like to see the world and other times no I'm not interested. However he has reigned his spending in massively and trying to desperately clear debts all of the sudden...
I do get the impression it is want he is wanting to go but just not being fully honest cos he knows it leaves our relationship in a sticky place.
I would fully be happy for him going travelling and seeing the world, but I also don't want to stick in a relationship when he's planning on disappearing in a few months.
I don't really know what to point of this post is cos I don't think he's going to be fully honest with me, do i just keep plodding and see how things pan out?

I think you have to decide what happens here, if he's being vague. Does he normally follow through with plans? Why haven't discussed travelling together? living together? A relationship can going thrive when you have plans together and if you aren't wanting to wait while he travels without you, then I'd consider ending and moving on.

I've asked him if he's thinking about going travelling

I reckon that if you can't have an chat about this and feel like you're getting an honest answer after a year with him, then your chances of this working happily long term aren't brilliant, whether he joins his mates or not.

He’s in his 20s with very few obligations. This is the ideal time for him to go travelling.

It doesn’t have to spell the end of your relationship although it’s prob wise to anticipate that there may be a parting of the ways.

But in your shoes, if you otherwise see a future with him, I would be wary of making him feel it’s you or travelling. If he decides to stay with you, he may come to resent having given up the possibility of travelling when he still had relatively few responsibilities. Could you accommodate an arrangement where he travels but you periodically fly out to join him?

It may be that your relationship comes to a natural end while you’re apart but (if he’s otherwise someone you might see a future with) I’d be wary of forcing his hand by making him choose between you and travelling now.

Would you want to go with him?

hes taking a break from everything and that includes you but he doesn’t have the balls or the emotional maturity to tell you. I would break up with this guy asap, a friendly break up, just tell him you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who is not committed and while he’s travelling you would like to “explore other options”. Tell him that if you happen to be both single when he comes back from his travels you might consider getting back, in the meanwhile just like him you too want to explore. Then break up with him and start looking for greener pastures. This guy is done.

Please don’t stay at home waiting for the phone to ring while he backpacks and shags half of the planet for a year. You deserve much better.

@Sandra1984 this is a 3 month old thread. Perhaps take your bitterness and conclusion mu. Ping on a newer thread?

Conclusion jumping*

Yes officer.

Are you part of the mumsnet police?

@Sandra1984 is right. Guy has prob lost interest if he’s making these kind of noises. Interested guy would say ‘I want to go travelling, come with me?’. Op hasn’t been back though sadly to tell us how it’s going

@Sandra1984 well come on.... Just because folk go travelling, doesn't mean their shagging their way round. Why on earth would you want to deliberately further upset someone that's feeling vulnerable enough already, let alone 3 months after the fact?