Uncomfortable about friend using phone while driving

[TwoShotsInMyCup]

I would appreciate some advice on this. A friend kindly gave me and my dds a lift to an event recently and while in the car she used her mobile twice, once to answer a call from her dm and once to look up the route and check maps. I felt uncomfortable (I believe it's illegal and dangerous) but didn't feel able to say anything.

What would you do? My husband uses our car during the day for work and my friend wants to go to this event again with the girls. I've got no way to get there unless she gives me a lift. I can make an excuse for the next time but she will probably keep asking. It's a fairly new friendship which doesn't help. Would you say something, if so what?

Does she have hands free for answering calls? If she goes on to check route you do it instead?

Did she take/make the call using the handset or via bluetooth? The latter is perfectly legal and fine.

On the maps, if you need to look up a route next time, you simply say "I'll look at the map - you can't do that whilst driving" in a fairly light tone, but not in a questionning way (ie - you are telling her, not asking her).

No she didn't use hands free for the call. I didn't know what she was checking on the map, she didn't discuss it first just put her phone in her lap and started searching. I would have had to take the phone from her and request her to tell me what it was she was looking for. I would have felt very awkward about doing that.

I wouldn’t say anything, just wouldn’t get in the car with her again.

Yes that's what I'm thinking, but I don't know how to respond when she asks (in front of my dds) if we want to go again.

I'd be blunt and say I'm sorry but I'm uncomfortable with you using your phone whilst driving, it's the mental equivalent of drink driving so we won't be getting in a car with you again.
I told my boss (at the time) I wouldn't travel with him again because his driving scared me and made my own way to a meeting. I took the phone off a friend trying to do similar to yours when she was driving me, I'm not having someone else endanger my safety.
She could get points or worse kill someone through lack of concentration. She probably knows it's wrong and won't say much, if she kicks up a fuss she's not a good friend and so you'll be done with that friendship but I'd be honest I really would.

I see so many people using their phones at junctions texting. It’s so bad

I would definitely say sorry, I don't feel comfortable in the car with my children when the driver uses their phone. Thanks for the offer, though.