Caring or controlling?

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Please give opinions on this scenario. I feel it could be controlling and suffocating, but he insists it's caring and loving.

Woman in her 30s likes to go for an evening walk to the local supermarket and back, at around 6:30-7pm. Always home by 7:30. Shop is only 15 minutes away via populated, urban well lit roads.

Man goes ballistic if he finds out she has done this. He says it's dangerous and she could get attacked. She says it's fine - there are families, young people and commuters all out and about at this time. He says she is stupid and doesn't care about risks.

Thoughts?

Controlling. Very controlling.

Controlling.

Many posts start out this way. Then reveal that she can't bloody move for him wanting constant updates, wants to drop and collect her everywhere, and more extreme behaviour.

In this scenario it's controlling.

100% controlling

Controlling. Such people nearly always dress it up to sound like care or concern but that's part of their manipulation to keep you sucked in. My abusive ex used to get angry if I changed my hair colour/style in any way and say it was because he wanted me to look good and not ruin my appearance!

Controlling and scary.

Anyone who goes ballistic is not caring.

Controlling. Even if it was dangerous (which I can't see why it would be) it's her decision to make, not his.

He’s very controlling
She needs to ltb asap

It's absolutely ridiculous to feel that this is any riskier than life in general. So he is either a very anxious and unrealistic type or wants you under his control. The effect on you is the same and you can't afford to put up with it, ever. Personally I would end a relationship over it.

Yet another common or garden controlling bastard. If this is a friend of yours tell her how controlling it is.

Controlling

Controlling; I had an ex like this and looking back it was one of the early signs of what then developed.

I feel it could be controlling and suffocating, but he insists it's caring and loving

If he cared, you wouldn't feel controlled.

Controlling prick. I bet he goes out at that time, even though men are more likely to be attacked in the street, so the risk for him is worse, but I bet that’s different for some reason 🙄 Never let a man act like he’s your owner.

It's the "going ballistic" bit that would worry me. DH worries if I'm walking around at night. He can't help it. He also knows that I need to carry on with my life and sometimes that's what needs to happen. He wouldn't go ballistic, ever.

Controlling. Mine would offer a lift but if I said I was walking in a well lit area to a shop he’d be fine with it.

Insanely, suffocatingly controlling.

Why encourage someone to live their life ruled by fear!? How limiting. 🤨
He's either an anxious wreck terrified of Shadows or he's a controlling git.

Either way I'd have the ick very strong and that would be the end of that.

Controlling.
I can't imagine a situation that anyone queried me leaving the house whatever time of the night if I wanted to.

'goes ballistic' you say, interesting. 🤔 my DH cares about me so he tends not to go ballistic because he wouldn't want me to be treated that way. He tends to chat about things with me in an 'interested in your pov' kind of way, talks to me respectfully (would rarely get shouty and certainly apologise if he did), and, if I was walking somewhere, might say 'mind if I come with you' and get his coat for a nice stroll together.

Controlling and abusive.

None of this is okay. You’ve lived life as a woman up till now - you know what works for you and what doesn’t, safety-wise. He surely doesn’t think all women should retire indoors as soon as it gets dark, does he? If you were doing this at midnight, his concerns might be more valid but going ballistic would always be wrong. He thinks you should replace your own judgement - based on your life experience as a woman - with his. So yes, it’s controlling and stifling and unacceptable.

It's the 'going ballistic' bit that would concern me. If you think it's unsafe and it worries you, you can express that calmly to your partner (though you didn't say if this was her partner or not?) but getting ridiculously angry, nah, not cool.

I await incoming drip feed...