My MIL is a super Grandmother. Dotes on her grandchildren. They don’t see her a lot but she’s around for them at birthdays. Will help with the odd pick up when we’re stuck maybe once a month or so. We don’t use GPs for babysitting. We last saw them properly at Xmas.
However, my MIL is super complimentary to us (when others are not around) and let’s say to my family if they are at an event praising our kids, praising our parenting.
But when we are around DHs family she shames me publically. Last week there was a DH family event. I was leaving early as I had another event (booked before DH family event). MIL just started saying @LostCount you don’t go to your event and say something silly, don’t you say something wrong. I was going to meet a bunch of school mums for drinks. Some I know some not so well. Then I was like what do you mean? She was then like oh you know don’t say silly stuff.
So kindly my BIL is like Mum what you going on about? Then MIL goes on saying ‘will you know anyone?’ and I said yes. Then she was like yes of course you will @lost cos you know everyone don’t you. Then I was like well yes it’s my kids school so I do know some people but not some.
then she said to BIL oh it’s ok @lost knows what I’m like. She knows me well enough. The thing is I am sociable I get on well with people. Unless MiL has had feedback from somewhere that I’ve said something off (which I can’t for the life of me think what). She’s done it a few times before tried to embarrass me in front of people. Like make a joke of me.
I know it’s about her, I think? I went out anyway and then I was paranoid all night came home early. It spoilt my night a bit, knocked my confidence. I mentioned to DH and he was like she’s getting old, he was like I don’t know why she says stuff like that.
Anyway when I walked out of DH family event I said look I’m in my 40s I know how to talk, what to say. I don’t care what you say and everyone had a giggle and I left!
how do I stop MIL shaming me like this!