I have been with my girlfriend now 17 months she is 49 and I'm 46 so we aint kids, any way I have started to question the relationship the past few months lately because of her actions and what she says
She has a older daughter 30 who has moved out and her nephew who is 14 who lives with her, we only see each other every other Saturday so twice a month at a push. the thing is I'm still a secret .
None of her friends and family don't even know i exist, the only time i can call her is if she is on her way to work or on her way back home, i have questioned her about this and her response was she doesn't want her nephew to hear our conversations , although she has told me he is always upstairs in his room playing his xbox and headphones on.
then there was the occasion she was going out with work colleagues 4 x male and one other female which i don't have a problem with , we had arranged for me to pick her up but i suggested i get there a little early and have one drink and say hello to everyone, she quickly changed the subject, so before i left i asked her where she is and i got the reply of i don't know, so i replied can you find out please and she said no as we are moving in a minute.
Anyway driving her home she let it slip that they had been in the same bar for the last 3hrs.
when i questioned her the next day regarding the lie she tried turning round onto me saying im over sensitive and there is no need for them to know about me its her own business. plus everyone tells white lies.
then the other Saturday daytime we was messaging and my last message was just after 2 which she read but didn't reply for another 6hrs, I asked where she had been and her reply was just sat on my ass all afternoon, the reason i have doubt about this is because her phone is never out of her hand especially if she is at home, the only time she never is online or doesn't message back is when she is out or with people. again i question her about this and I just got told stop being sensitive and we don't have to message all the time which contradicts what she told me the last time we was together which was I love the way how we constantly message and just talk random stuff!
Last week I sent her a friends request on facebook (she rejected my first one 8 months ago) which she rejected, again questioned her about it and apparently its her private life and doesn't want me on there!
We went away to a lodge break in Devon ( 4 nights) in October and on 5/6 occasions i asked for photo together as we had a lovely backdrop of the beach and ocean, she declined saying she doesn't like her photo taken.
The past 6 months she has been out with her work colleagues about 5 times, so I snooped on her female friends facebook and there is literally 50 photos of her with another man, he's constantly sat next to her arm around her, her head squashed into chest, if you would see these photos you would instantly think they was a couple
so the advice I'm after is do you think im just a convenience and being played?