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I am wondering how quickly other women come when ‘having a bit of time alone’ (ahem) vs sex. I doubt if it takes two minutes when it’s just me on my own but when it’s the whole shebang it’s not at all certain I will. Didn’t used to have a problem with orgasming through sex provided it was the right position and the fact I can do it alone so quickly (too quickly almost) indicates to me it’s probably not physiological. I just wondered if anyone else has this. Am 42, pretty healthy, still fancy my partner, so I wonder if it’s a change in something or other in my hormones or something? Or just super efficient 😂

It takes me a while to orgasm from penetrative sex, i enjoy it, and I much prefer sex, but yes when I masturbate it’s a quick 2min job. 🤣

I'm the same. I can come through masturbation in 1-2 minutes flat. Sex takes much longer, if I do at all. I have health issues which affect stamina so that doesn't help, plus hormones and generally getting older. Dp has health problems too so we muddle through together without pressure. We focus on intimacy first and foremost and giving each other a good time without worrying about an o. I need a lot of foreplay and energy to come in sex. But yes, masturbation is a guaranteed job done scenario.

Just super efficient

You wouldn’t be doing it if you wasn’t in the mood for it (and nobody else is schmoozing you into horniness) so you’re halfway there before you get going.

Instinctively your body knows what feels good and instinctively you match your actions to meet that.

I'm single and a very pleasurable job done in a minute.

Good reminder to get some more batteries btw way, so much cheaper and hassle free than a DH or DP!

I hold back until I feel ready to let go, otherwise it is less intense. I'm not ashamed of the fact I masturbate and I enjoy 1:1 sex. mThe needs are quite different.

With fingers, andnholding on 10-15 minutes but I can go quicker.

With a vibey, as little as 5 minutes if i don't hold back.

From oral, 10 minutes or so. But I prefer for things to take longer. I don't climax from insertion alone, but that's not a problem for me as the rest of things work so well.

When im having me time its much quicker. probably 2-3 mins. But I only tend to self play when I have the need out of desperation! so my body is already in the zone if that makes sense. I have young family, so normally if I have to play its due to not being able to have sex fro for ages and desperate lol.. plus not having much time so needs to be done quickly. From sex with a partner can really depend on the pr build up. if im already worked top etc. but maybe 10-15 mins.

My bf can make me cum in about 4 mins playing with my nipples, 2 mins on my clit. Masturbating with a toy takes me about 5 🤣
Once he's done that, about 3 mins to cum through PIV.
I get about 6/7 orgasms to every one of his and he's very happy to oblige 🥰
(I'm mid 50s, he's mid 40s)

I think it's because if know EXACTLY what I want and when I want it

When with someone I have to wait for them to pick up on cues etc so it takes longer

Thanks to everyone for lots of encouraging words on here, there’s hope😍 I was wondering if anyone else found it the opposite way, as in it’s just not happening reliably like it used to? Slightly wondering if I’ve got an issue or if it’s just a phase. Definitely showing first signs of what’s either menopause or maybe it’s my hormones changing after four and a half years with a coil…I’ve read the coil doesn’t give off enough hormones for hormone levels to change when it needs replaced but lots of women seem to think differently. So I don’t know 🤷🏻‍♀️

Different sort of stimulation - might be worth laying off wanking for a bit to see if it helps, (or changing your technique to mimic sex more) if you want to orgasm more with intercourse. I think you can get used to one sort of sensation and find it harder to get off other ways.

@category12 Lay off wanking, just shot tea out my nose laughing 🤣

😂

I’ve been single for over 10yrs and only recently started dating again. I’ve found it really hard to orgasm with new partner - only twice in the 2 months we have been sleeping together. Once was via oral sex too. I’m not sure why, I wonder if it’s my age, but then I tested out a new vibrator I bought the other day and yep a few mins max. Don’t get me wrong I love sex with my bf, he’s the best sex I’ve had by a long shot even without the orgasms so if we can fix that it will be extra amazing. I think some of it is because he can last a long time (with some breaks / change of positions to hold back a bit) and when my clitoris gets numb I can’t cum. The other day we had sex for over 2hrs! I mean that mad, no wonder my clitoris was numb. I think our answer is that my vibrator has to feature more and hopefully as I start having more orgasms I’ll naturally come easier during sex. I’ve never had a G spot orgasm - my new vibrator has a Gspot attachment so might give that a go!

I usually only masturbate when I need to, like when haven't or cant have sex and need has built up. So usually it is pretty quick probably 2-3 mins. Also live in a house with kids so if im not quick they wake up - and nothing worse than starting and not being able to finish!
I have in the past enjoyed lingering / edging but hat has been when I have had time and privacy.

When I was in a relationship rarely did it. Since being single it keeps my sanity!

Probably around 5 mins if I want to enjoy it