Should I report my former partner for driving high?

[twilightleap2023]

I know that morally this should be a non-question. He should not be driving high. He has done this in the past, and had therapy and treatment to get off weed. The addiction came back supposedly sometime last year. He admited that he used it in the morning before going to work and driving to the office. I also know that he'll do weed with friends during an evening and then drive home.

I am sure that even any annonymous reporting would come back to me. We have almost completed the process for me to buy him out of the house. I have always been scared to do this in the past due to reprucussions, and that hasn't changed. I am scared of his anger, how he would react, I guess I am also emotionally involved and love him too, I don't want him to screw me over with the house.

I would also feel awful if he or someone else was harmed or killed due to this.

And I question my motives. Now that we have separated, I can't deny there is an element of this as revenge. Friends and family have asked why I haven't reported him already! My therapist said that I should only report him if my motives are pure. His addiciton has harmed me, however I would never want anyone to get in trouble just for using weed, it is the driving whilst high which is the concern.

I am all over the place mentally and emotionally and awaiting a PTSD diagnosis.

I wondered what other people would do?

You're already aware of your motives and your therapist has already mentioned them too. There's not much else to say but to do the practical thing.

If you take away your feelings and all you're left with is the danger he poses to himself and others on the road while driving high, would you still report? Do you think it's the right thing to do?

If yes, then do it for that reason alone. If no, then you have your answer.

You can but there is little point unless he is caught doing it and I doubt The Police have the resources to follow him every time he gets in the car

@twilightleap2023

yea before he hurts another.

@twilightleap2023

i meant another person ie someone not him

If you knew someone else was driving high, would you report them? It's a yes or no question, and will solve your query.

Make a decision and move on. Whether it's 'right' or not doesn't matter; you'll never know if you saved someone's life. What matters is that you don't spend all eternity tied up in trying to make a decision about something that's nothing to do with your life and it's structure. You could be spending this time working on your future, rather than wondering what to do about his. How important is he to you. after all?

Would you report someone if they were regularly drink driving?
if yes, then the same rules apply
(btw my niece was killed by a drunk driver at 18 so I always report it!)