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Cheating

9 replies

FedUpSigh · 19/01/2023 18:35

90% that my partner is cheating on me, and the worst thing is he still has the audacity to sleep next to me at night, no conscience what so ever!

Just really sad and fed up at the moment, I can’t end the relationship as we’ve got two children together and I wouldn’t be able to manage.

I suffer from anxiety and depression (which is manageable)

OP posts:
whoknew123 · 19/01/2023 18:46

I'm so sorry to hear this, big hug X I'm sure with time you can get yourself in a position to leave and start a life that you deserve X

lifeisyellow · 19/01/2023 18:56

I'm really sorry to hear that. What makes you think he is? Could you have gotten it wrong? How old are the DC?

SallyAnn32 · 19/01/2023 19:01

I've been in your position, with 2 young children. Yes it was hard, but do you know what? I'm one of the clique people who tell you that it'll be fine and you'll be better off eventually. I remember someone telling me that I would look back and it would be the best thing ever to happen to me. I not so politely told her to F off. She was right though. I'm so much better off and he's miserable as sin.

As I said it wasn't easy and times are tricky but if you do want to separate, and that's best for you, then you will get through it. You just will. I promise.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do. X

SallyAnn32 · 19/01/2023 19:01

SallyAnn32 · 19/01/2023 19:01

I've been in your position, with 2 young children. Yes it was hard, but do you know what? I'm one of the clique people who tell you that it'll be fine and you'll be better off eventually. I remember someone telling me that I would look back and it would be the best thing ever to happen to me. I not so politely told her to F off. She was right though. I'm so much better off and he's miserable as sin.

As I said it wasn't easy and times are tricky but if you do want to separate, and that's best for you, then you will get through it. You just will. I promise.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do. X

Cliche 🤦🏻‍♀️ not clique 🤦🏻‍♀️

Original poster
FedUpSigh · 19/01/2023 19:10

I'm really sorry to hear that. What makes you think he is? Could you have gotten it wrong? How old are the DC?

I just have a very bad gut feeling, he has always been very sneaky.

He is going out more than usual, especially during the day. DC are ages 1 & 6, so as you can imagine it would be extremely hard.

He is very good when it comes to parenting!

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lifeisyellow · 19/01/2023 19:17

Does he work? Could he be going out for work? How is he with his phone?

How has he been sneaky in the past? How long have you been together?

pilates · 19/01/2023 19:21

If you don’t address it your depression will get worse. Sorry I don’t think you can bury your head in the sand.

Lifeisntpeachy · 21/01/2023 10:03

I agree I think you need to think about any evidence you have and whether you might be putting two and two together and getting five.

How have things been since you posted?

Purplecatshopaholic · 21/01/2023 10:09

Well if you do nothing, you’ll continue to get what you’re getting now. Surely your MH will likely get worse dealing with a cheating shit of a partner? The constant sneakiness and lying will chip away at your self esteem. Do you have support IRL? Time to really think about what you want your future to look like.

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