For reference: I’m 27, colleague is 32 and he is in a senior role to me but in an entirely different department- could never be my boss or have any influence over my career/promotion due to different sectors and roles albeit in the same organisation.
colleague started in September and was instantly flirty- difficult to explain but lots of eye contact etc. I then worked away for one month- on my return he stopped me in the corridor to ask where had I been? He thought I had left after only meeting me one month before but noticed my abscence. We don’t see eachother everyday due to working in different roles and sectors albeit of the same large organisation. Everytime he sees me he smiles, raises eyebrows etc even when with his boss. Last time I saw him we were flirting, he initiated conversation and had a nervous laugh- even joining in with other colleagues in a conversation praising me. He then added me on Facebook a couple of days later, we only have one mutual friend (from a workplace in a different part of the country) so I presume he searched for me rather than me being a ‘people you may know’ suggestion. We’ve now been fb friends for a few weeks and I haven’t seen him at work due to annual leave, should I just message him or is that desperate? I normally follow the man must message first stance but as he added me first, I don’t know if that is his first move?