Hi everyone,
I need a bit of advice.
I've been struggling with a play date situation for months.
My daughter (7 years old) has a friend in her class... they are always close to each other... which I think is normal and even healthy, but her mother and I never exchanged a word, I don't even know her name or where they live, nor do I have any information regarding this child.
We only saw each other at the drop out and pick up, the kids never exchanged a good day, which is always on the run.
A few months ago, in a school pick-up, my daughter was happy to say that she would go to her friend's house for a playdate that same day, but no one ever asked me or spoke to me.
Of course, that same day I told her no as i need some info about who , when and how, address, telephone number and who the person is and how are you going, ...an adult should ask me for permission, that no one would take her without first having word with me.
Interesting and that when I was talking to my daughter, the friend's mother was beside me and didn't even open her mouth, she simply turned to her daughter, shrugged her shoulders and followed her path.
We left the school side by side and the mother didn't say a word the way, she simply ignored me.
The following week the same thing happened, she invited my daughter and on the same day she wanted to take her home without any contact with me,
whereupon I explained again that my daughter would not go anywhere without my authorization and the minimum of information where and with whom to go... and once again the friend's mother simply ignored it and left the school with her daughter.
This has been going on since July until now, almost every week this is without any attempt to get in touch with the friend's mother but she continues to invite and even offered her chocolates one day.
I've tried to smile, I've said good morning and just ignored me.
Last week in one of the pick ups we were waiting for the kids to come out for at least 5 minutes in the school play area and once she saw her daughter and mine she gave mine a paper with an invite to a playdate, right in front of me, who has his number, address and name, but still ignoring me.
I'm a shy person so I'm not the type of person to start up a conversation and it seems to me this mommy is the same, but if you want to have a social gathering you at least have to try so make any contact.
With other moms, I have no problem making random chitchat, even about the weather, but this person is just a struggle for me.
Even she doesn't ignore she just doesn't speak, just standing there looking.
I may be consider that play date, even i don't seem to enjoy sending my kid to a stranger house, but to be honest that kind of attitude only puts me more off to that, and not making any effort for that happening.
What you people thinK? am i being rude, cautious or strange as well?