Does sex life come back

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Just that really ? Both super tired with toddler, teen and 10 yr old , we used to have sex at least 3 times a week but now lucky if once every 2 wks just so tired and libido is low , I love dh very much and fancy him but worried it will stay like this

I wish I knew the answer to this.

We've been through a very rough patch recently and we only slept together around 5 times at most last year.

I wish we could get it back as we get on so much better when we are having regular sex. Having a teen in the house who doesn't go to bed till we do or even later doesn't help things either

Teenagers are an absolute menace to your sex life. They go to sleep late, and can't be fobbed off with tales of "that noise was just me having a nightmare" any more.

No it doesn't.

Been trying to get it back for 3 years at least now. We're on our last legs. He's taken up exercise, healthier diet and trying to get more sleep to see if that can improve things. If it doesn't and I don't know how long to keep trying for...I'm stuck here. Circumstances are less than ideal.

Yep. We had 2 years of very rare sex because of pregnancy and non sleeping baby. Back to normal now. Just keep connecting physically where you can, energy allowing, head rubs, shoulder massages etc xx

Once every two weeks is pretty good going in my book! We probably have sex once a month or less, but it's bloody good when we do. And like others have said, I think the non-sexual contact is really important. I wouldn't focus too much on the actual frequency and instead work out what you want more of - is it actual sex, or intimacy, or a reminder that you're attractive etc. But maybe I'm in denial and we're not as solid as I think, who knows?!

Yes definitely. Been with DH for 20 years and our sex life has returned about 3 times now. I think as long as you show eachother affection, say I love you (and mean it) and just generally still feel that spark is there it'll come back.

It's completely unrealistic to think your sex life will stay the same throughout your life together. The baby years are exhausting, teenagers make it practically impossible to have spontaneous sex, there's times when you might be ill for long periods or have other stresses in life that kill your libido but it doesn't mean it's gone forever.

Thanks all for the replies, we are very loving couple, frequently say I love you through out the day and both fancy the pants of one another and have lots of cuddles too so maybe we are just a typical tired couple trying to balance work , kids and life hehe