Is he telling the truth?

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Just before Christmas I went onto my husbands phone and it opened up onto his Insta account. The video that started showing was of a young lady dancing in the smallest set of underwear known to man and all the videos on this account were the same sort of soft porn (he was also "following" this account).

I was a little taken aback (probably shouldnt be as he is a man...not man bashing but...) and I noticed all the "suggested reels" that his algorythm has thrown up were also very young women in various states of undress doing various acts. I dont know why but but I got a little suspicious so then i went into his "recent searches" to see what he has been looking up and there was nothing there expect 3 searches which all had the word "teen" in the title.

When I confronted him he said he has no idea how those "recent searches" have got there and that he was totally innocent. He claims that all the content is there because his friend sent him a link to a page and since then all these girls' accounts are being suggested. He says he is really really sorry but I cant help feeling there is more to it. Im not an insecure or paranoid person so the fact that I cant get past it is setting alarm bells ringing even louder - he has never done or said anything that would make me suspicious before.

I have tried to check if it is possible for something in your recent searches can be algorythm based but I keep getting varying answers and was wondering wether there are any Insta experts on here that can give me a definate answer.

We have 5 children and the thought that he is specifically looking up teens is absolutely disgusting but, if he has not been doing it then I might be able to move past it all.
He is 52 and not a prolific social media person.

To accuse someone of being interested in young women is awful if its not true but if it is true....

Grateful for amy practical advise here.

If you want to see if he's interacting/liking photos of young women on Facebook:


You search for the persons name, but instead of clicking their profile you leave it on the results page (where all the people with that name are listed).
Then click 'photos' from the options along the top.
Then 'see all from friends' and you can see what they have liked.. if you sort by date posted it shows you even more.

It only shows public photos but you can see enough from this.

I agree. He’s a liar, he’s sleazy and he disrespects you, OP. And it’s going to be a lot worse if you still live with him when your children are teenagers.

Are you serious? A 52 year old man ogling over teenage girls??

This^

He lusts after teenage girls. I don't know how you can get past this, armed with that information.

Exactly she can't.. she will always feel insecure, won't want to have sex with him, resentment because he's not who she thought.. It kills the love.

Funny how there's always a "friend" to blame! Sorry this has happened op 💐

He's sleazy.

He's very clearly lying. Maybe he is weird, maybe he wants to relive his youth, maybe there are serious issues. Regardless, I wouldn't be able to be with someone like that.

Fwiw I rarely use the search function on insta, but everyone I follow is for a particular 'theme' (a sport that I do) and surprisingly enough, ALL of my 'suggested' people/videos are fitness ones. If I accidently swipe through to reels, all the ones that follow (which arent always accounts that I follow) are of a similar theme, with the exception of ads or the occasional 'viral' video.

Instagram shows you more of the content it knows you watch. Why would they pick something different? It wants you to consume more.

What is coming up is what he's following or watching.

Do you have a son that could have looked it up on his phone?

When I confronted him he said he has no idea how those "recent searches" have got there and that he was totally innocent

Instagram doesn't input random searches from people. The only things in your recent search history are things you have searched for.

Check his activity log on instagram. I'm not sure if they can be deleted but a lot of people don't know how to check it so he might not have tried to delete.

From his page click the 3 lines in the top right, then 'your activity' then interactions and it will show his likes and comments

Also check the saved posts

Go into ‘your activity’ and ‘recent searches’.

Mine is full of dog vids. Occasionally (and one thing I hate) you can click on a vid by accident which turns out to be horrid, Insta then shows you more. It’s only happened once, I had to go in and search loads of stupid things to stop it throwing up more. It was an unpleasant dog vid.

I've got recent searches which are things I've typed in.. but in the search bar it flashes up suggestions such as "search custom jewellery " "search inspirational quotes"

So it depends which it is.

You know your husband better than any poster here so don't listen to all the awful replies.. give it time. Keep an eye and if there is a whiff of anything else then you know for sure.. but don't let this consume you or make you question yourself.

He is full of shit.

Recent searches are what you recently searched. That’s it. He’s searched for ‘teens’. Which is frankly repulsive.

Don’t let the cornered rat convince you that he was tricked into anything. It’s all him.

Second of all, does it matter? He's not cheating on you. And looking for 'teens' doesn't mean children, it means young adults. No problem with that IMO.

It's disrespectful. And a teen ranges from 13-19, the fact that he wants to look at 'young adults' that have barley left college/sixth form is weird asf IMO.

This is almost exactly it OP. It's down to you whether you have an issue with it or not and not sure anyone can advise.

He's definitely lying though!