How does your husband say hello and goodbye to you

[nattybones]

How does your husband greet you and say goodbye to you in person?

It's always me that moves towards him to give him a peck to say goodbye.

If I'm at home and he comes in, he just comes in! No hug or a kiss.

Current partner: kiss when arriving, kiss and wave when leaving.

With my exh, we never did this, however - it was not part of our "culture". We'd say/yell hello/bye, start a conversation about the day etc.

(I love the cat and dog greetings - love it when I'm in the bathroom or something and can hear dp in the other room having a conversation with the dog.)

That’s brilliant. To be fair anyone who loves their cat that much is a good egg really.

The other day I waved DH off from the front door. Neighbour was scraping hers.
I shouted at him ‘and don’t bother coming back this time’. As a joke, and firmly shut the door.
I could hear him chuckling and he texted me from work later saying ‘omg, you should have seen her face!!).

Maybe I’m a hard faced bitch but god I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone so needy that they actually had to come and get a hug in between meetings and needs to be held when he’s watching the tv of a night. I’d be out. I mean really, comes for a hug in between his meetings and wants hugging when watching the telly. It’s like a small child.

just shows how different we all are. I’m happily married but if my husband insisted in interrupting my work day as he needed a hug between his meetings and if he wanted to sit and be held watching tv I’d never have married him. 🤯

Depends where we're going. If it's work it will be bye and rush out the door. If we have longer might be a kiss. And normally an 'alright' when we get home

A quick 'bye' will do. He's usually in bed when I leave, not home when I get back and I'm in bed when he gets home.
Can't be doing with kissing and hugging goodbye all day.

Same here. We’re very affectionate generally and especially to each other. We’ve both had some bad times and we deeply appreciate what we have with each other.

If it works for others fine, but yes this would drive me up the wall

We have been together nearly a quarter of a century so no offence to my husband I wouldn't be any different to anyone else

If he is using his nice voice "hello gorgeous how are you?" it is to the dog

A simple handshake is enough for us.

My H is almost always all smiles and fluffy

Left for work the other day out of our front door and thought I would let DH know I was off. Walked through the back gate, into the garden and over the decking to his office and slipped over. Completely fell on my (fat) arse. Hurt so much. When I eventually got to him I told him what happened and didn’t even get a kiss goodbye. LTB, I know..

When arriving home after being away with work for 3 nights, it is a, 'hello? Hello? Oh hi' as no one has heard him come in. After that length of time DH will hold my waist to bring me close for a softer, 'hello', then a kiss. If he is popping out to local shop he will scarper with a quick call out, 'bye' as he doesn't want to be asked for chocolate or sweets from the DC or stuff I've thought of beyond milk and packed lunch items (which is usually what it is) he's not doing a 'big shop'. Sometimes though even after being away for 2 days he is greeted by me with Hi, did you get that bottle of wine and the kids, 'is there any ice cream?' his reply is usually something sarcastic or a deflated look as he's gone for the kiss and the I missed you but I've ruined the moment as just ask if he's got the stuff I text him about, I do go on to say that I missed him but the wine is usually a Friday thing so I think I'm trying to establish quickly if I need to go to the shop.

We have family gatherings and my brother's FiL and wife are so affectionate, they did proper smooching in front of the grandchildren, the 15/16/17 year olds didn't know where to look. I think to last that long with PDA so in the 70's puts us the 40 something's to shame. Maybe once your DC are early 40s they won't die of embarrassment.

That’s about your individual needs though isn’t it, if you’re both on the same page then it’s fine. I’m married and we are very similar to this poster - we work in entirely different places so don’t see each other in the day, but we’re both tactile and of an evening will cuddle on the sofa to watch TV for example. We genuinely miss each other when we’re at work and enjoy weekends just being in each others company - with lots of hugging as and when we want to. Not need, want. That’s the difference 😊

My DH can never get it right poor bloke. Just always pisses me off for that split second before I check myself. Has always been so!

If I’m doing something (which is always), listening to podcast etc he’ll creep in the back door (office in the garden) and whisper ‘HELLO!’ smile and creep off - you’re still interrupting me with your whisper!! And always makes me jump.

If he’s been out he’ll come for a hug/kiss and it just feels like someone else needing something from me. Or he’ll just called ‘helloo!’ really cheerily and it really interrupts the atmosphere and pisses me off. If the kids are up they’ll trot off to see him, cheering that he’s home and abandoning me after all I’ve done for them.

If I have been out then he’ll stay where he is (sofa) and NOT jump up to give me a kiss!!! How dare he?? Sometimes he won’t even look at me!

Yesterday he went away overnight and just said ‘bye’ and walked out!!!!!! (Had given me a goodbye kiss a few mins before). So dismissive!

We just can’t get it right. But I shan’t LTB.

Me and the kids are all about hugs and kisses throughout the day and telling each we love each other. So DH of 15 years is sucked into this lovey way of life. He hugs and kisses hellos and goodbyes. It doesn't come as naturally to him.
I'm a bit smothery but he is a one armed hugger and a kiss on the head type. And he's called me and the kids mate a few times. Me and DH both have attachment issues for different reasons and it.manifests itself differently. It works for us. Couldn't not have the hugs, definitely not.

Depends.

He flies in and out. 5 weeks away, 2 weeks at home.

Always a hug, kiss and love you at the airport when he leaves. Usually accompanied by tears, his whole family is this way. Maori.

Same when he flies in.

On the daily when he's home, may or not be a quick peck as I'm out the door to work and always a "Hi bub" when I'm in or he's in the door.

I'd find it odd if there was no acknowledgement.

Going to work? mostly leave as quietly as possible unnoticed. That's me leaving at 2.30am or him leaving at 6am when I'm not working.

if I'm up at the same time then occasionally a peck and quick hug, but always an "off now, have a good day, see you later"

popping to the shop, "bye" or "won't be long"

going away, big hug and kisses.

Coming Home, shout to the house "helllloooo" then fuss the dog. if stood up doing something then a quick peck. If sat on the sofa nothing but asking how things have been, maybe an acknowledging pat or peck.

all other times can have random pecks/kisses hugs, lot of chatting, we sit cuddled together everyday, then go off to do/watch our own things.

25 years married, its the first time I've actually thought about how we interact on a daily basis. Conclusion, works for us.

We just yell BYE or HELLO when opening/closing the front door. The one staying in/already in the house is usually nowhere near the front door. If by some chance they are we'll give each other a peck goodbye though. If we're travelling for work we'll have a more affectionate goodbye but there's no need if it's just a normal work day.