Would this get your back up?

[Hellno44]

I do 95% of everything at home, childcare, cleaning, admin etc. Anyhow, the kids are constantly ill (2 &4). They currently have colds. My youngest woke in the night and was screaming. She had a terrible cough in the day and was also pulling her ear. I also have had earache and sore throat. So I ask my husband to do a syringe of calpol. His response is Calpol, calpol, calpol. I don't like the kids to have medicine unnecessarily. My kids rarely have medication and never unnecessarily. Would this get you back up? I'm really upset about it.

Sorry it’s not clear what you mean. Was your husband suggesting more calpol and you didn’t like that or what?

i also hate to give or take medicine myself unnecessarily but if you notice your daughter has a bad cold plus discomfort like pulling her ear and then you put her to bed without calpol and she wakes up screaming it does sound like your criteria for “necessary” may be a bit extreme and not what’s always best for your kids?

Sounds like you're just knackered.

But THAT is largely his fault. Why does he do nothing in the home or fir his own kids?

I Would have told him to go nurse his daughter. Your strong reaction to his comment is your body telling you enough is enough.

Stop doing 95% and tell him he has to step up or ship out because you're not gonna tolerate that shite anymore. And mean it.

Being single is a valid life choice op.

Yeah it would get my back up a bit tbh. I expect this comment is the tip of the iceberg, but if he is not grafting away doing the parenting with you then he can't moan. Plus if your DC needs calpol... They need calpol. FFS. Why wouldn't he want them to feel more comfortable?

Just the first sentence alone would piss me off enough to leave

Yes it would get my back up. He needs to step up and when he is ill zero bloody sympathy and certainly no paracetamol/ibuprofen/Beecham etc