Struggling to accept its over

[Foreverbroken1]

Just need a outlet away from real life to offload.

Separated from my partner a few weeks ago after over 6 years together. It’s been a tough couple of years since COVID with constant issue after issue and complete inability to get along and progress in the relationship. Deep down I know it’s the best thing all round and there’s several times I’ve considered ended it over the last couple of years but it’s still utterly heartbreaking and I feel so lost. We had been getting along reasonably amicably but things have come to a head and ended horribly which, I think, is making me feel so much worse.
The next couple of weeks will be the hardest trying to adjust to life apart so any tips to help get through it will be very much appreciated.

I'm sorry. It's really hard. Every time you want to text him text a mate ,or call someone
Keep busy, get into a good book, watch a shit tv series!
Every time he pops into your head remind yourself why you're not going to work!

It is hard. I'm sorry your feeling like this, it does pass. Eventually, time is the best healer it really is. I think they say one month for every year you were together so in six months you will feel ok about it all. Maybe still a bit sad now and again but on the mend.

You need a new routine.

You need something to take you away from where you are. Whether it's a gym, a book, a walk, a class you go to to learn something new, but you need something new to take your mind off what your feeling when you feel like this.

It's a cliche but the hair dye always come out for me. I know at that point I'm on the mend.

Don't feel bad about feeling bad. Accept that you'll feel rubbish, and do all the things for yourself that you'd want a really good friend to do for you. Bring yourself chocolates, watch too much tv, indulge yourself. It's not meant to be easy, but you are meant to be desperately nice to yourself.

Thanks for your messages. I’m just finding it so difficult. I think of all the reasons why it’s not working and reassure myself for a split second that it’s for the best then revert back to ‘but what if…’ or ‘one more try! It might work this time’ and then focus on the good times and that breaks me.

We’re currently still living together so I’m hoping when he moves out I’ll be able to pick myself up a bit. He doesn’t seem as broken as I am and that seems to be making me worse.

@gravyriceandchips i had just changed my hair before the break up so took a trip to the hairdresser the other day to get it back to normal😂

Sooner he goes the soo et you will be able to start processing it, changing things for youself and then moving on.

Until he moves out it will be hard.

Can you get away for a bit?

How's it going tonight op? What you been up to?

Go out lots with mates. Have a carefree aura about you and make sure he sees it. Fake it until you make it basically. Get away from your living situation as much as possible.