Had enough..

[sjmijm]

Partners been messaging women again about sex, then telling me he loves me (always after drinking alcohol)

Last women is someone I know - she replied saying she'll see if he can live up to her expectations - do I tell her I know and tell them both to F off?

Daughter couldn't get to sleep tonight, was crying out and making a fuss - he SCREAMED at her to shut up and also shouted FFS!

I don't know what response I'm looking for on here, just always appreciate the advice. But it's time to go isn't it.

Yes. Do you have somewhere to go ?

I do yes, ducks are in a row..

Just feel drained with it all, if that makes sense. Life isn't always like this - but these things seems to happen every now and then like it's nothing? He isn't all bad etc, but clearly has issues..

You’re lucky that he’s just a partner, easy to split.
Good luck

I think now is a good time to get out before it gets worse. Plan well and then make your move.

Isn't it horrible though when someone has a lot of good/normal qualities... yet these things happen
From time to time and you just think WTF!!

He's like this often enough that I recognise your username & remember you live with this wanker - and I have brain fog & struggle to remember my own name most days!

you now have your 🦆 🦆 🦆 in a row, you have somewhere to go, he's cheating on you, GO GO GO

you and DD deserve better than this. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for DD

you CAN do this!!

I'd have my focus solely on my daughter and myself at this point.

I'd not give either the partner or the other woman any headspace at all.

Leave them to each other, they deserve it.

Good luck.

He's not a partner. Just a tool who lives with the OP

...just rubbish isn't it, when you let things go so many times only to be angry at yourself that you've stayed so long.

Worst case is, he's messaged so many women over the years, that I felt nothing this time yet carried on like nothings happened.

That's the biggest reason to go... it's like I e become immune to being disrespected! How bad is that!

Show your daughter your standard by walking away, and l would also ditch the friend

LTB you deserve way way more x

You have one life. Don't spend it with a cheating lying twat.

@sjmijm, this is highly disturbing. There’s no way that I’d stay with a man who abused my daughter by screaming and cursing at her when she couldn’t get to sleep. Your poor child. The damage done to her will be incalculable.

Get rid of this serial cheat/abuser asap.

He screamed at your little girl. Screaming at her aka losing his temper and unleashing anger... in an attempt to teach a child how to regulate her emotions. The hypocrisy.

Surely that's an absolute, unequivocal enough is enough moment?

If it isn't then what would be? Waiting for him to assault one of you?

Put her first. Leave him.

I think it's time to leave, yes.

I stayed in a relationship like yours for 15 years. I didn't leave because I thought he'd change. He never did, he just got worse as they years went on.
Now I'm happily married to someone else who cares about me and I love every moment we spend together. Never thought it would happen, but it did, and you can be happy again too-whether you find someone else or find peace just being with your daughter.

Is he the father of your DD. Who owns the property you live in.

Nope the biggest reason is he shouted at your daughter. She has no choice but to go with you. Leave

He is the father yes, and it's his house but I've recently bought my own as an investment.

Ugh, the pain that comes with leaving is hard isn't it x

The pain of leaving is going to be a lot less for your poor Daughter when she doesn't have to endure being screamed at by her Father. For not being able to sleep