If you’re NC with a family member..

[SpinningFloppa]

Did they accept it and move on or have they still tried to contact you and won’t get the message? Just trying to find out what the norm is here?

It's tricky to say because the person going NC might want a different response - one might expect absolute radio silence without a single shred of interest and would be enraged by any attempt to contact, another would be offended that they hadn't even attempted to and it proved that they didn't care in the slightest. They might want the person to feel pain at the loss, they might not think it makes a blind bit of difference to them (and it might not). Or they could want both absolutely no contact AND contact/regret/apology/resolution, which is the hardest one, as it means the person concerned can't ever do the right thing because every act or inaction is wrong.

They still try to contact me. Personally, I think it's a very healthy thing to cut toxic people out of your life. If there is one thing I've learned, it's that toxic people do not change. (Indeed, people generally don't change.) Selfish people, manipulative people, narcissists, psychopaths, jealous/bitchy **s, etc remain that way all their life. They will sometimes pretend to have changed, but that's because they're good at pretending to be something they are not in order to get what they want.

Some people are just no good. And that's that. You have to cut them out of your life. If not, they can literally destroy you.

I'm nc with my brother... he doesn't have my mobile number so wouldn't be able to... if he did he prob would try to get in Touch.
He likes to say hello via my mum... I have zero interest.

I know I will have prob have to see him again at some point in my life but i will avoid as much as I can.

They contact on my landline 😳 they don’t have my mobile

Can't you get the provider to block certain numbers calling a landline? Better still change the number and only give it to people you trust.